How do you ask someone if youre dating other people?

Laetizia Haessig / Getty ImagesTrying to figure out your relationship status with someone isnt always easy, especially in the age of digital dating when every text and social media

How do you ask someone if youre dating other people?
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happy couple laying in bed

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Trying to figure out your relationship status with someone isnt always easy, especially in the age of digital dating when every text and social media post can be painfully analyzed. Between the awkward mixed signals and shy conversations that plague many budding romances, sometimes it's just not obvious when to bring up the topic. The trajectory of every relationship you have is different, and its not uncommon to find yourself thinking aboutor agonizing overwhere you and your partner fall on the relationship spectrum and where your current connection is possibly heading.

"New relationships involve lots of questions, and many people struggle with this topic," says psychologist Ari Tuckman. "Dating apps make it really easy to be talking to and going out with multiple people at a time, so this question has become increasingly relevant over the last decade."

Fortunately, we've drawn advice from dating experts to round up five key ways that can help to clue you in as to where you stand with your partner so you no longer have to wonder, Are we dating?

You Spend a Lot of Time Together

If youre wondering if you and your partner are unofficially dating each other, take a closer look at the time that you spend together. Do you only hang out at 2 a.m. after a late-night text in which this person invites you over? Or do you spend multiple days and nights with one another throughout the week? When youre dating someone, the two of you will want to spend as much time as you can together and will put in everyeffort to plan dates and outings.

"Whensomeone is really interested in you for a long-term relationship, they're usually working pretty hard to make sure you know it because they dont wantyougetting distracted and looking elsewhere," says Jennifer Verdoli, Ph.D. "We look athow much time one spends with a potential mate to get a clue about whether there is a real relationship underfoot."

If you and your partner hang out from time to time and then you don't see or hear from them for a while, only to receive a random text from them again on a whim, youre probably just hooking up or arefriends with benefits.

You Talk About the Future

When youre trying to figure out if youre dating, its important to pay attention to the content of your conversations, especially when it comes to discussing your future together. Are you both planning ahead to set up times to hang out, inviting each other to events that are months away, or even discussing going on a trip together?

When youre actually dating someone, conversations and plans for the future will come naturally. But if you notice that your partner is avoiding these kinds of topics, is vague about planning anything far-off, and refuses to think about anything past a few days or even hours from right now, the odds are that you're not dating this person.

Youve Met Each Others Friends

If youre dating someone, its not uncommon to introduce each other to your respective group of friends. However, if youve noticed that you havent met any of their crew and that this person tends to avoid the topic whenever possible, youre likely not yet at the dating phase. "The reality is that if someone is only making time to see you infrequently, or only when it's convenient for them, and doesn't introduce you to friends and family, they're not serious about you," says Verdoli.

In most circumstances, when youre actually dating someone, youll want to introduce them to your friend group, not only to find out what your friends think of your partner, but also to see how they fit in with the other important people in your life. For example, is this person fun, engaging, and outgoing when they're with your friend squad, or is your partner awkward, standoffish, or even obnoxious?

If you've been intentionally introduced to any part of your partner's family, that's a pretty clear sign that this relationship is going somewhere. But it's still probably best to talk about it and not jump to conclusions.

You Open up to Each Other

How much do you really know about the person youre seeing? When youre dating someone, youll both want to open up to each other and share personal stories and anecdotes in order to get to know each other better and connect on a deeper level. When you're both emotionally investing in each other by revealing more about who you are as a person, this is a clear sign that you're dating.

However, if you find that you dont know very much about your partner beyond the superficial and feel like they are secretive, aloof, or emotionally unavailable to you, then youre not really dating. This person is choosing to keep you at a distanceand opting to put up barriers between the two of you rather than trying to build upon your connection and bring you closer together.

Youve Had the Talk

If youre trying to determine if you and your partner are dating, you can always choose to sit down and have a real conversation about the current status of your relationship. While it may seem scary or intimidating at first, its important that you act as your own advocate and speak up for yourself about what youd like to have with this person going forward. Whether youre looking for something serious or something more casual, checking in and engaging in a face-to-face conversation can help to manage expectations and prevent potential heartache down the road.

"Too much of the drama in new relationships is about guessing, double-guessing, and triple-guessing what the other person wants, making both people feel crazy. So use your words," suggests Tuckman.

Its in your best interest to talk about whats going on between the two of you so that youre not wasting your time with someone who doesnt want the same things that you do. This kind of conversation can help to solidify and confirm that youre both into each other and that you both want to take your current relationship to the next level.When to Move From Casual Dating to a Relationship

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