How do you slide in an Instagram DM?

How to slide into DMs on Instagram - Detailed 2022 GuideDating AppsDec 29Written By MaximeI got ya, you dont know how to slide into DMs on Instagram.Most guys dont.Theres a proper

How do you slide in an Instagram DM?

How to slide into DMs on Instagram - Detailed 2022 GuideDating AppsDec 29Written By Maxime

How to Slide into DMs on Instagram
How to Slide into DMs on Instagram

I got ya, you dont know how to slide into DMs on Instagram.

Most guys dont.

Theres a proper way to do it.

But there are many ways to do it wrong.

After reading this article, you will know the exact technique.

It does not make you look sleazy or thirsty.

And has the highest chances to get girls to reply.

In fact, close to 45% of every woman in the US uses IG (for only a third of all men).

Its becoming one of the best ways to do online dating nowadays.

Theres no perfect thing to say to a girl when youre sliding into her DMs.

Its all about your personality and how you go about it.

But in this article, Im going to give you

  • Tips and tricks
  • Hints
  • Things that Ive learned and that worked for me

So they can work for you too.

So that you can turn this

Example of getting ghosted
Example of getting ghosted

Into this

Girl replying excitedly on IG
Girl replying excitedly on IG

To then lead it to that...

Girl confirming a date on IG
Girl confirming a date on IG

Today we will see :

  • The Big Mistakes to avoid
  • My Super Technique to Get Girls to Notice You
  • The Mandatory Prerequisite
  • How to Slide into DMs on Instagram with Panache
  • How to Slide into DMs on Instagram and lead to a date

So follow the guide and lets see how to DM hotties properly.

3 Big Mistakes to Avoid when Sliding into a Girls DMs

Youre on Instagram.

Youre scrolling.

Youre double-tapping.

The usual thirsty stuff we all do, myself included.

Its all fair game.

Now there are things that you really dont want to do.

If you want to avoid being categorized as a simp, or even worse, a creep.

1 - No Public Comments

Do not leave a public comment.

Its impersonal, and she probably will never even see it.

Also, that would directly put you in the same box as all the creepiest guys there are on Instagram.

And you dont want to be associated with them.

2 - Dont Be Boring

Do not send something lame and boring like hey how are you?.

Or any variation of it that looks like:

  • Whats up??
  • Hello
  • Good morning
  • Young woman I wanted to say hello because you look stunning
  • Wanna grab drinks?

You might as well stick an Im awkward at talking with strangers label on your forehead and send her a picture of that.

That would communicate the same things, but at least thatd be funny.

You might think it doesnt hurt, that such a message is low-effort anyways.

To which I would reply that it has 99.999999999% chances of not working.

So save yourself some time and read on to see what actually works.

3 - Dont Be Sexual

Do not talk about

  • Her thick thighs
  • Her round butt
  • Or her incredibly huge tits

Thats probably obvious stuff, but there I said it.

I know its called a direct message, but that doesnt mean you have to let her know straight that you want to smash.

Actually, even girls looking for a hookup say they dont like it that straightforward.

What you want to do instead is to be playful.

You want to have fun with it.

But before we get into that, theres a problem.

A lot of girls wont even notice you because they are literally swarmed.

  • By notifications
  • by comments
  • by other DMs

And so, the next thing you really dont want to do is to be transparent.

My Super Technique to Get Girls to Notice You

So many things are asking for a girls attention on Instagram.

You gotta make sure your messages dont drown in the pool of other distractions she receives.

How to slide into DMS on Instagram and have yourself be seen, you say?

I came up with this 4-steps super technique to make sure she sees you.

  1. Get on her profile
  2. Follow her
  3. Like 10 of her posts in a row to spam her notifications feed
  4. Send her a DM

Now of course if she has millions of followers, youre gonna have a hard time standing out anyways.

But if she only has a few thousand, you will stand out in her notifications feed.

See, a regular notifications feed looks something like this.

Example of IG notifications screen
Example of IG notifications screen

If you follow my secret technique, it will look something like this instead.

Social media spam notifications
Social media spam notifications

And now youre sure to stand out.

She might even check out your profile.

And at the very least, when she sees your profile picture in her DMs, it will ring a bell.

And shell have more chances to click to see whats up.

The Mandatory Prerequisite To Slidin in

Alright, this is the part where I will manage your expectations.

And this is also the part where Im going to be super extra honest with you.

If you just downloaded the app yesterday and you wonder how to slide into DMs on Instagram, this should be the least of your worries.

Let me put things into perspective.

Here is a screenshot of my girlfriends Instagram inbox.

Hot girls IG inbox full of DMs
Hot girls IG inbox full of DMs

Its full of doods!

Not every girl will have an inbox about to explode like that one.

But if youre DMing a pretty girl, its most likely the case.

The point is: She will have to be more selective.

And if you roll in on a fresh account with 5 photos and 183 followers, its not gonna cut it.

She wont think twice about not replying to you (if she ever happens to notice your DM).

You are going to need more to set yourself apart.

So before even asking how to slide into DMs on Instagram.

Before figuring out whats the best cold DM.

Make sure you have a nice profile.

3 Steps to Make Sure Your IG Looks Nice

Having an Instagram profile that looks nice and engaging can actually transform your app into a Tinder 2.0.

Thats how powerful it is.

And you dont even need to be ripped or blessed with a square jaw.

Tip: Being handsome doesn't mean being attractive. It plays a role, but in itself, its not enough.

Its easy to think that a handsome guy would have it easier.

But most of the time, a handsome guy is also a guy who has the rest figured out too.

So lets figure out what really makes an Instagram profile attractive in 3 easy steps.

1 - Show an Interesting Lifestyle to Reel Girls In

Social media is supposed to show what your life is like.

Alright, we all know its actually a performance.

But to be able to put up a performance, you still have to be able to put yourself in such a situation.

Who cares if youre just on a trip and not really living in the Maldives.

Who cares if youre renting this Lamborghini for a few hours only.

Youre still enjoying nice holidays and driving a luxury car.

A girl watching your profile is still going to

  • Feel good emotions
  • See that there are interesting things happening in your life.

Of course, this is an extreme example.

Here are 2 examples of a more attainable type of profile.

Example of an attractive IG profile
Example of an attractive IG profile
Example of an attractive IG profile
Example of an attractive IG profile

You can see that both of those feeds show guys with a dynamic lifestyle.

Guys who go to nice places.

Go give them a follow and copy what they do.

It's a great inspiration.

Tip: A girl wont want to hang out with you if your life looks boring, or less interesting than hers.

In any case, make sure your profile shows an interesting life shed want to be a part of.

  • Go to beautiful places
  • Try cool activities
  • Show off your interesting hobbies

2 - Hang with Others to Reassure Her

The biggest single factor in showing that youre trustworthy is other people.

If you hang with others, you can then show social preselection.

Social preselection is this idea that

  • If you have a lot of friends, you must be a cool guy
  • If people like to be around you, you must be interesting to hang out with
  • If hot girls enjoy being with you, then its normal for her to hang out with you too
IG photo with friends
IG photo with friends

Im not telling you to go and pose with your female friends to show off.

But if youre able to throw in some pics of you and your friends enjoying a party, it goes a long way in showing youre not a lonely creep.

Im allergic to dogs, cats and cute kids, so Ive never had any pets to pose with.

But Im told those pictures work great as well to show that youre not a secret axe murderer.

3 - Have a Visually Beautiful IG Profile

Once again, you dont need to be physically hot.

But your profile should not have girls feel eww or whatever.

  • Use high-quality photos
  • Use good lighting and good angles
  • Wear nice outfits, go to beautiful-looking places
Nice picture of a guy on Instagram
Nice picture of a guy on Instagram

Heres an easy enough example to replicate.

So go out and take new pictures.

Most likely you wont manifest your next 15 pictures by snapping your fingers

So keep reading, start DMing girls.

And at the same time work on improving your profile.

3 Steps to Slide into DMs on Instagram with Panache

Now that you have a nice Instagram profile, your next step is going to be to actually text her something privately.

Dont be afraid to look thirsty or anything.

Thats just how it goes.

And the 3 quick step-by-step below will make sure you shoot your best shot.

The Super Secret Instagram Opener Formula

You see, there is a common thread to all pickup lines.

Before they got corny (and that happened real quick once every guy and their mother started using canned lines) they used to make girls smile.

Why?

Because the best Instagram pickup lines showed that you were genuine.

They made the girl feel special.

And on top of that, theyd send good vibes.

So lets see how to emulate just that.

I will share with you my Instagram Opener Formula so that you too can come up with your own successful Instagram pickup lines.

Step 1 - Be Genuine

Avoid a 100% copy and paste of something that you saw online.

There are great pickup lines and techniques out there.

And those work for a reason.

But adding some originality is super extra important.

Just to make sure that she didnt receive the exact same original pickup line from another dude yesterday, do you feel me?

You always want to add that pinch of yourself in your DMs.

Example of a personalized pickup line
Example of a personalized pickup line

To do this:

  1. Take a pickup line you found fun or find an interesting detail in her IG feed
  2. Add or modify 1 or 2 details to make them more relevant to you
  3. Shoot your shot

Step 2 - Make Her Feel Special

The best Instagram pickup lines hook girls in because there is this one detail that is relevant to her.

This one detail shows you cared enough to go have a look at her profile.

Thats why my favourite way to start a conversation with a girl on Instagram is to send her a comment about one of her previous posts.

The key with effective pickup lines is that its not just your average hey babe that she receives exactly 69 times per day.

Its something that stands out because it makes her feel special.

And to make her feel special, she kinda has to be, at least to you.

Its hard to copy and paste something to a lot of people and expect them to feel like they mean something to you.

In fact, this has a name.

Its called SPAM.

And I dont want you to spam girls with low effort messages.

Messages that, if they even get read, will be instantly discarded.

Pro tip: To share a girls own post directly to her on Instagram, click on the small paper plane below one of her posts.

Sharing a girls post directly to her DMs
Sharing a girls post directly to her DMs

Amazing!

No Instagram pickup line was even needed.

But lets get back on track.

To make her feel special through your first text you want to:

  • Have a look at her IG feed
  • Have a look at her story
  • Find at least one detail that is interesting to you in there
  • Add this to the DM youre planning to send her

People just LOVE to talk about themselves way too much.

And that hot girl on Instagram is no exception.

By making your Instagram pickup line about something that is highly relatable to her (aka herself), youre exponentially increasing your chances of getting a reply.

Girl replies to DM
Girl replies to DM

Step 3 - Dont forget the good vibes

So far you have an Instagram pickup line thats both

  • Genuine to you and only you
  • Relevant and engaging to her

We want to make sure that your Instagram pickup line also gets her to smile when she reads it.

Its very important to have her feel good about reading your texts.

On top of being a beautiful application of the Pavlov experiment to dating, its also great to simply stand out.

See, if she feels good about reading your first text, chances are higher that she will want to read your next text, and keep talking to you.

There are different ways to have a girl feel good about her texts.

  • You can tell an interesting story
  • You can give a compliment
  • You can come up with a joke
  • You can invite her to a party
  • You can propose to be her sugar daddy
  • Etc, etc.

Actually, Im not a big fan of being someones sugar daddy.

But its a great example of what I am describing.

To send good vibes you want to give value.

See, its not necessarily about literally giving something.

But if your Instagram pickup line has

  • You complaining
  • You asking her to do something,
  • You making it sexual or asking for a nude,
  • Or simply asking her about her day out of nowhere

Its taking value.

That would translate to bad vibes.

Example of a good vibes text
Example of a good vibes text

This one was meant to be a joke, but she took it as a compliment.

Why not, have some good vibes girl.

Try to make your Instagram pickup line at least entertaining.

To make her day at least a tiny bit brighter.

Girls will appreciate that.

And youll get more replies.

Alternatively, you could come up with your own Instagram pickup line by simply

Go with whatever you feel when watching her profile and adding those 3 steps in.

Remember?

  • Being genuine
  • Making her feel special
  • Sending good vibes

Fun is really the most important part there.

I mentioned it earlier, you want to be playful.

And if you dont believe me, here it is, directly from the unicorns mouth.

Original IG pickup line
Original IG pickup line

2 Steps to slide into DMs on Instagram and Get a Date

Alright, so you low-key slid in that cuties inbox.

You handsome sneak.

And if you followed the steps before, she replied and is receptive.

What you want to do now is to lead this to date.

But be careful, or you might lead yourself right into the friend zone.

Because youre not here to simply entertain a girl.

Youre here to get her out.

So lets see how to make that happen in just 2 simple steps.

1 - Build on Top of the Initial Interest

If you came this far, she should be receptive to your initial banter.

You exchanged a few jokes back and forth, and a few info about each other.

Its all good.

The most important thing here is that she is actually enjoying the talk shes having with you.

Youre gonna use that good energy to transition to a more flirtatious conversation.

In practice, its gonna look like this:

  1. Youre interesting and fun while bantering
  2. She shows interest (because youve been interesting)
  3. You make it flirtatious to confirm whether her interest is real or not

Extra tip: Stating or showing that youre attracted by flirting with her and bantering is mandatory. If you dont show any kind of interest, she will put you in the friendzone.

Not being too friendly and flirting a bit is necessary.

You need to let her know that youre at least curious about her as a potential date partner.

Because if you dont, as soon as she realizes that you actually have a third leg that you intend to use with her, this will happen.

Example of getting ghosted when making a move
Example of getting ghosted when making a move

Ouch.

I read that Seen as Pain.

Spoiler alert: she never replied back.

Now there are so many ways to make a conversation with a girl flirtatious, so let me give you 2 examples.

1 - Teasing Girls to Spike their Emotions

To tease a girl you want to make fun of one of her innocent flaws.

Did she tell you she just finished doing yoga?

Send her a funny gif of a cat moving its legs and tell her it looks like her.

She told you she was drunk yesterday?

Tell her she reminds you of that crazy girl you saw dancing on a table the other day.

She sent you a selfie?

Tell her that her tattoos are funny.

Example of teasing with a gif
Example of teasing with a gif

Important Note: Dont make fun of something that is important to her.

If you make fun of something that matters, youre gonna hurt her feelings, as well as your chances to get with her.

Theres no need to troll, playful banter is way cuter.

2 - Testing if Shes Date Material

Another thing you can do to flirt is to assess whether shes girlfriend material.

To do so, you want to throw her hoops.

You want to ask her to tell you or to do things, to see how she reacts.

In practice, you will ask her things like

I like that food on your profile, can you actually cook well?

I like your tattoo, show me your other ones!

I can appreciate a smart girl, were you one of the smart kids?

Example of testing a girl
Example of testing a girl

2 - Push for a close

Ideally, once you make the conversation flirty, she will react well to it.

It is now time for you to bring your ongoing banter to a close.

You want to link whatever conversation youre having with her to the idea of a date.

If she is interested in you and happy to get to know you so far, there is no reason for her to not say yes.

All that you have to do is to properly link this to date.

And it is way easier than youd think.

In this conversation below, I was talking to her about work.

Yes, work.

Which is like, the most mundane thing ever.

Asking a girl out on IG
Asking a girl out on IG

It was during the pandemic, so bars were closed.

I transitioned from talking about work and feeling like having a drink to inviting her directly to my place.

There are many ways for you to link a conversation to date.

But it all boils down to this :

(Current Topic) + (Activity that You and Her Could Do Together) = Relevant Date

And if you dont like math, here are a few examples.

  • If shes Russian and you guys were talking about vodka, invite her to drink vodka to see if its that good.
  • If youre talking about the gym, invite her to come exercise with you.
  • If youre talking about art, invite her to this cute art gallery show nearby.
  • If youre talking about movies, invite her to see that latest Marvel banger.

Do you get the spirit?

Careful though, it does not mean that you have to be blunt.

Take it slowly.

  • First, you push for the idea of a date
  • Once she said yes, you lock down the logistics

If you do everything at once as most guys do, she will ghost you.

Dont be all like

By the way do you like vodka? I can buy some and we drink it tomorrow at 6 PM on my sofa

Because it shows thirst.

(and not the beverage kind of thirst)

And youre not thirsty, youre an online love gangster.

Instead, you could break down this message into 2 steps.

To build what is called a yes ladder.

So dont forget, always

  1. Lead towards a date, because pointless conversational chat is pointless.
  2. Take your time while doing so, because theres no need to rush to a close.

There are only 2 things that texts are used for. Anything else is useless fluff.

You use texts only to playfully banter and exchange logistics for a meetup

To Conclude

There you have it, your complete beginner guide on how to slide into DMs on Instagram.

No more I dont know how to slide into DMs on Instagram bro, whats your pickup line?.

You now know exactly which step to take and which direction to go at any point in time.

Because hey.

I get it.

Literally, every guy wonders how to slide into DMs on Instagram, it is not easy.

Girls have it easier not gonna lie.

They just need to post sexy pictures and sit back.

And guys have to go through the dreadful concepts of being left on seen and getting ghosted.

Welp, no more of that for you.

You know how to shoot your best shot at this IG cutie that youd have no other chance of meeting IRL otherwise.

One more thing:

I put together a video below where you can see how I edit my photos to be at least 23% more attractive.

This is useful for Instagram, not just Tinder.

(For obvious reasons.)

Check it out by clicking below.

Tinder Photo Trick
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How to slide into DMs on Instagram - Detailed 2022 GuideDating AppsDec 29Written By Maxime

How to Slide into DMs on Instagram
How to Slide into DMs on Instagram

I got ya, you dont know how to slide into DMs on Instagram.

Most guys dont.

Theres a proper way to do it.

But there are many ways to do it wrong.

After reading this article, you will know the exact technique.

It does not make you look sleazy or thirsty.

And has the highest chances to get girls to reply.

In fact, close to 45% of every woman in the US uses IG (for only a third of all men).

Its becoming one of the best ways to do online dating nowadays.

Theres no perfect thing to say to a girl when youre sliding into her DMs.

Its all about your personality and how you go about it.

But in this article, Im going to give you

  • Tips and tricks
  • Hints
  • Things that Ive learned and that worked for me

So they can work for you too.

So that you can turn this

Example of getting ghosted
Example of getting ghosted

Into this

Girl replying excitedly on IG
Girl replying excitedly on IG

To then lead it to that...

Girl confirming a date on IG
Girl confirming a date on IG

Today we will see :

  • The Big Mistakes to avoid
  • My Super Technique to Get Girls to Notice You
  • The Mandatory Prerequisite
  • How to Slide into DMs on Instagram with Panache
  • How to Slide into DMs on Instagram and lead to a date

So follow the guide and lets see how to DM hotties properly.

3 Big Mistakes to Avoid when Sliding into a Girls DMs

Youre on Instagram.

Youre scrolling.

Youre double-tapping.

The usual thirsty stuff we all do, myself included.

Its all fair game.

Now there are things that you really dont want to do.

If you want to avoid being categorized as a simp, or even worse, a creep.

1 - No Public Comments

Do not leave a public comment.

Its impersonal, and she probably will never even see it.

Also, that would directly put you in the same box as all the creepiest guys there are on Instagram.

And you dont want to be associated with them.

2 - Dont Be Boring

Do not send something lame and boring like hey how are you?.

Or any variation of it that looks like:

  • Whats up??
  • Hello
  • Good morning
  • Young woman I wanted to say hello because you look stunning
  • Wanna grab drinks?

You might as well stick an Im awkward at talking with strangers label on your forehead and send her a picture of that.

That would communicate the same things, but at least thatd be funny.

You might think it doesnt hurt, that such a message is low-effort anyways.

To which I would reply that it has 99.999999999% chances of not working.

So save yourself some time and read on to see what actually works.

3 - Dont Be Sexual

Do not talk about

  • Her thick thighs
  • Her round butt
  • Or her incredibly huge tits

Thats probably obvious stuff, but there I said it.

I know its called a direct message, but that doesnt mean you have to let her know straight that you want to smash.

Actually, even girls looking for a hookup say they dont like it that straightforward.

What you want to do instead is to be playful.

You want to have fun with it.

But before we get into that, theres a problem.

A lot of girls wont even notice you because they are literally swarmed.

  • By notifications
  • by comments
  • by other DMs

And so, the next thing you really dont want to do is to be transparent.

My Super Technique to Get Girls to Notice You

So many things are asking for a girls attention on Instagram.

You gotta make sure your messages dont drown in the pool of other distractions she receives.

How to slide into DMS on Instagram and have yourself be seen, you say?

I came up with this 4-steps super technique to make sure she sees you.

  1. Get on her profile
  2. Follow her
  3. Like 10 of her posts in a row to spam her notifications feed
  4. Send her a DM

Now of course if she has millions of followers, youre gonna have a hard time standing out anyways.

But if she only has a few thousand, you will stand out in her notifications feed.

See, a regular notifications feed looks something like this.

Example of IG notifications screen
Example of IG notifications screen

If you follow my secret technique, it will look something like this instead.

Social media spam notifications
Social media spam notifications

And now youre sure to stand out.

She might even check out your profile.

And at the very least, when she sees your profile picture in her DMs, it will ring a bell.

And shell have more chances to click to see whats up.

The Mandatory Prerequisite To Slidin in

Alright, this is the part where I will manage your expectations.

And this is also the part where Im going to be super extra honest with you.

If you just downloaded the app yesterday and you wonder how to slide into DMs on Instagram, this should be the least of your worries.

Let me put things into perspective.

Here is a screenshot of my girlfriends Instagram inbox.

Hot girls IG inbox full of DMs
Hot girls IG inbox full of DMs

Its full of doods!

Not every girl will have an inbox about to explode like that one.

But if youre DMing a pretty girl, its most likely the case.

The point is: She will have to be more selective.

And if you roll in on a fresh account with 5 photos and 183 followers, its not gonna cut it.

She wont think twice about not replying to you (if she ever happens to notice your DM).

You are going to need more to set yourself apart.

So before even asking how to slide into DMs on Instagram.

Before figuring out whats the best cold DM.

Make sure you have a nice profile.

3 Steps to Make Sure Your IG Looks Nice

Having an Instagram profile that looks nice and engaging can actually transform your app into a Tinder 2.0.

Thats how powerful it is.

And you dont even need to be ripped or blessed with a square jaw.

Tip: Being handsome doesn't mean being attractive. It plays a role, but in itself, its not enough.

Its easy to think that a handsome guy would have it easier.

But most of the time, a handsome guy is also a guy who has the rest figured out too.

So lets figure out what really makes an Instagram profile attractive in 3 easy steps.

1 - Show an Interesting Lifestyle to Reel Girls In

Social media is supposed to show what your life is like.

Alright, we all know its actually a performance.

But to be able to put up a performance, you still have to be able to put yourself in such a situation.

Who cares if youre just on a trip and not really living in the Maldives.

Who cares if youre renting this Lamborghini for a few hours only.

Youre still enjoying nice holidays and driving a luxury car.

A girl watching your profile is still going to

  • Feel good emotions
  • See that there are interesting things happening in your life.

Of course, this is an extreme example.

Here are 2 examples of a more attainable type of profile.

Example of an attractive IG profile
Example of an attractive IG profile
Example of an attractive IG profile
Example of an attractive IG profile

You can see that both of those feeds show guys with a dynamic lifestyle.

Guys who go to nice places.

Go give them a follow and copy what they do.

It's a great inspiration.

Tip: A girl wont want to hang out with you if your life looks boring, or less interesting than hers.

In any case, make sure your profile shows an interesting life shed want to be a part of.

  • Go to beautiful places
  • Try cool activities
  • Show off your interesting hobbies

2 - Hang with Others to Reassure Her

The biggest single factor in showing that youre trustworthy is other people.

If you hang with others, you can then show social preselection.

Social preselection is this idea that

  • If you have a lot of friends, you must be a cool guy
  • If people like to be around you, you must be interesting to hang out with
  • If hot girls enjoy being with you, then its normal for her to hang out with you too
IG photo with friends
IG photo with friends

Im not telling you to go and pose with your female friends to show off.

But if youre able to throw in some pics of you and your friends enjoying a party, it goes a long way in showing youre not a lonely creep.

Im allergic to dogs, cats and cute kids, so Ive never had any pets to pose with.

But Im told those pictures work great as well to show that youre not a secret axe murderer.

3 - Have a Visually Beautiful IG Profile

Once again, you dont need to be physically hot.

But your profile should not have girls feel eww or whatever.

  • Use high-quality photos
  • Use good lighting and good angles
  • Wear nice outfits, go to beautiful-looking places
Nice picture of a guy on Instagram
Nice picture of a guy on Instagram

Heres an easy enough example to replicate.

So go out and take new pictures.

Most likely you wont manifest your next 15 pictures by snapping your fingers

So keep reading, start DMing girls.

And at the same time work on improving your profile.

3 Steps to Slide into DMs on Instagram with Panache

Now that you have a nice Instagram profile, your next step is going to be to actually text her something privately.

Dont be afraid to look thirsty or anything.

Thats just how it goes.

And the 3 quick step-by-step below will make sure you shoot your best shot.

The Super Secret Instagram Opener Formula

You see, there is a common thread to all pickup lines.

Before they got corny (and that happened real quick once every guy and their mother started using canned lines) they used to make girls smile.

Why?

Because the best Instagram pickup lines showed that you were genuine.

They made the girl feel special.

And on top of that, theyd send good vibes.

So lets see how to emulate just that.

I will share with you my Instagram Opener Formula so that you too can come up with your own successful Instagram pickup lines.

Step 1 - Be Genuine

Avoid a 100% copy and paste of something that you saw online.

There are great pickup lines and techniques out there.

And those work for a reason.

But adding some originality is super extra important.

Just to make sure that she didnt receive the exact same original pickup line from another dude yesterday, do you feel me?

You always want to add that pinch of yourself in your DMs.

Example of a personalized pickup line
Example of a personalized pickup line

To do this:

  1. Take a pickup line you found fun or find an interesting detail in her IG feed
  2. Add or modify 1 or 2 details to make them more relevant to you
  3. Shoot your shot

Step 2 - Make Her Feel Special

The best Instagram pickup lines hook girls in because there is this one detail that is relevant to her.

This one detail shows you cared enough to go have a look at her profile.

Thats why my favourite way to start a conversation with a girl on Instagram is to send her a comment about one of her previous posts.

The key with effective pickup lines is that its not just your average hey babe that she receives exactly 69 times per day.

Its something that stands out because it makes her feel special.

And to make her feel special, she kinda has to be, at least to you.

Its hard to copy and paste something to a lot of people and expect them to feel like they mean something to you.

In fact, this has a name.

Its called SPAM.

And I dont want you to spam girls with low effort messages.

Messages that, if they even get read, will be instantly discarded.

Pro tip: To share a girls own post directly to her on Instagram, click on the small paper plane below one of her posts.

Sharing a girls post directly to her DMs
Sharing a girls post directly to her DMs

Amazing!

No Instagram pickup line was even needed.

But lets get back on track.

To make her feel special through your first text you want to:

  • Have a look at her IG feed
  • Have a look at her story
  • Find at least one detail that is interesting to you in there
  • Add this to the DM youre planning to send her

People just LOVE to talk about themselves way too much.

And that hot girl on Instagram is no exception.

By making your Instagram pickup line about something that is highly relatable to her (aka herself), youre exponentially increasing your chances of getting a reply.

Girl replies to DM
Girl replies to DM

Step 3 - Dont forget the good vibes

So far you have an Instagram pickup line thats both

  • Genuine to you and only you
  • Relevant and engaging to her

We want to make sure that your Instagram pickup line also gets her to smile when she reads it.

Its very important to have her feel good about reading your texts.

On top of being a beautiful application of the Pavlov experiment to dating, its also great to simply stand out.

See, if she feels good about reading your first text, chances are higher that she will want to read your next text, and keep talking to you.

There are different ways to have a girl feel good about her texts.

  • You can tell an interesting story
  • You can give a compliment
  • You can come up with a joke
  • You can invite her to a party
  • You can propose to be her sugar daddy
  • Etc, etc.

Actually, Im not a big fan of being someones sugar daddy.

But its a great example of what I am describing.

To send good vibes you want to give value.

See, its not necessarily about literally giving something.

But if your Instagram pickup line has

  • You complaining
  • You asking her to do something,
  • You making it sexual or asking for a nude,
  • Or simply asking her about her day out of nowhere

Its taking value.

That would translate to bad vibes.

Example of a good vibes text
Example of a good vibes text

This one was meant to be a joke, but she took it as a compliment.

Why not, have some good vibes girl.

Try to make your Instagram pickup line at least entertaining.

To make her day at least a tiny bit brighter.

Girls will appreciate that.

And youll get more replies.

Alternatively, you could come up with your own Instagram pickup line by simply

Go with whatever you feel when watching her profile and adding those 3 steps in.

Remember?

  • Being genuine
  • Making her feel special
  • Sending good vibes

Fun is really the most important part there.

I mentioned it earlier, you want to be playful.

And if you dont believe me, here it is, directly from the unicorns mouth.

Original IG pickup line
Original IG pickup line

2 Steps to slide into DMs on Instagram and Get a Date

Alright, so you low-key slid in that cuties inbox.

You handsome sneak.

And if you followed the steps before, she replied and is receptive.

What you want to do now is to lead this to date.

But be careful, or you might lead yourself right into the friend zone.

Because youre not here to simply entertain a girl.

Youre here to get her out.

So lets see how to make that happen in just 2 simple steps.

1 - Build on Top of the Initial Interest

If you came this far, she should be receptive to your initial banter.

You exchanged a few jokes back and forth, and a few info about each other.

Its all good.

The most important thing here is that she is actually enjoying the talk shes having with you.

Youre gonna use that good energy to transition to a more flirtatious conversation.

In practice, its gonna look like this:

  1. Youre interesting and fun while bantering
  2. She shows interest (because youve been interesting)
  3. You make it flirtatious to confirm whether her interest is real or not

Extra tip: Stating or showing that youre attracted by flirting with her and bantering is mandatory. If you dont show any kind of interest, she will put you in the friendzone.

Not being too friendly and flirting a bit is necessary.

You need to let her know that youre at least curious about her as a potential date partner.

Because if you dont, as soon as she realizes that you actually have a third leg that you intend to use with her, this will happen.

Example of getting ghosted when making a move
Example of getting ghosted when making a move

Ouch.

I read that Seen as Pain.

Spoiler alert: she never replied back.

Now there are so many ways to make a conversation with a girl flirtatious, so let me give you 2 examples.

1 - Teasing Girls to Spike their Emotions

To tease a girl you want to make fun of one of her innocent flaws.

Did she tell you she just finished doing yoga?

Send her a funny gif of a cat moving its legs and tell her it looks like her.

She told you she was drunk yesterday?

Tell her she reminds you of that crazy girl you saw dancing on a table the other day.

She sent you a selfie?

Tell her that her tattoos are funny.

Example of teasing with a gif
Example of teasing with a gif

Important Note: Dont make fun of something that is important to her.

If you make fun of something that matters, youre gonna hurt her feelings, as well as your chances to get with her.

Theres no need to troll, playful banter is way cuter.

2 - Testing if Shes Date Material

Another thing you can do to flirt is to assess whether shes girlfriend material.

To do so, you want to throw her hoops.

You want to ask her to tell you or to do things, to see how she reacts.

In practice, you will ask her things like

I like that food on your profile, can you actually cook well?

I like your tattoo, show me your other ones!

I can appreciate a smart girl, were you one of the smart kids?

Example of testing a girl
Example of testing a girl

2 - Push for a close

Ideally, once you make the conversation flirty, she will react well to it.

It is now time for you to bring your ongoing banter to a close.

You want to link whatever conversation youre having with her to the idea of a date.

If she is interested in you and happy to get to know you so far, there is no reason for her to not say yes.

All that you have to do is to properly link this to date.

And it is way easier than youd think.

In this conversation below, I was talking to her about work.

Yes, work.

Which is like, the most mundane thing ever.

Asking a girl out on IG
Asking a girl out on IG

It was during the pandemic, so bars were closed.

I transitioned from talking about work and feeling like having a drink to inviting her directly to my place.

There are many ways for you to link a conversation to date.

But it all boils down to this :

(Current Topic) + (Activity that You and Her Could Do Together) = Relevant Date

And if you dont like math, here are a few examples.

  • If shes Russian and you guys were talking about vodka, invite her to drink vodka to see if its that good.
  • If youre talking about the gym, invite her to come exercise with you.
  • If youre talking about art, invite her to this cute art gallery show nearby.
  • If youre talking about movies, invite her to see that latest Marvel banger.

Do you get the spirit?

Careful though, it does not mean that you have to be blunt.

Take it slowly.

  • First, you push for the idea of a date
  • Once she said yes, you lock down the logistics

If you do everything at once as most guys do, she will ghost you.

Dont be all like

By the way do you like vodka? I can buy some and we drink it tomorrow at 6 PM on my sofa

Because it shows thirst.

(and not the beverage kind of thirst)

And youre not thirsty, youre an online love gangster.

Instead, you could break down this message into 2 steps.

To build what is called a yes ladder.

So dont forget, always

  1. Lead towards a date, because pointless conversational chat is pointless.
  2. Take your time while doing so, because theres no need to rush to a close.

There are only 2 things that texts are used for. Anything else is useless fluff.

You use texts only to playfully banter and exchange logistics for a meetup

To Conclude

There you have it, your complete beginner guide on how to slide into DMs on Instagram.

No more I dont know how to slide into DMs on Instagram bro, whats your pickup line?.

You now know exactly which step to take and which direction to go at any point in time.

Because hey.

I get it.

Literally, every guy wonders how to slide into DMs on Instagram, it is not easy.

Girls have it easier not gonna lie.

They just need to post sexy pictures and sit back.

And guys have to go through the dreadful concepts of being left on seen and getting ghosted.

Welp, no more of that for you.

You know how to shoot your best shot at this IG cutie that youd have no other chance of meeting IRL otherwise.

One more thing:

I put together a video below where you can see how I edit my photos to be at least 23% more attractive.

This is useful for Instagram, not just Tinder.

(For obvious reasons.)

Check it out by clicking below.

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Maxime

Max travels the world and teaches men to become the better, more attractive version of themselves. You can find more about him on YouTube and Instagram.https://zirby.co/

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