Why people dont want help
If things are really getting to someone you care about, its important to understand that making a decision to seek help can be a tough thing for them to do. Coming around to the realisation that they're going through a rough patch can be scary and difficult, so it's understandable that they may take some time before deciding to seek help.
How to be there for someone who isnt ready to seek help
If your offers of advice and support are being rejected, you may feel like youre powerless to do anything. But you can still be there for your friend; you might just need to take a different approach to the way youre supporting them.
Continue to be supportive. Listen to your friend when they need to talk.
Give suggestions, if and when your friend reaches out to you and asks for your advice.
Do a bit of research into what help is available in your area that could be useful for your friend. That way, if they decide theyre ready to seek help, youll be able to give them some direction about who to go and see.
Talk to someone yourself
You need to look after yourself, too. It can be really frustrating, and make you feel helpless, if a friend wont let you help them. Talk through how youre feeling with someone you trust.
Youre not going to be able to be there for someone at every moment of every day. Set some limits on things youre willing and not willing to do and stick to them! (For example, work out if you're comfortable about accompanying them to their appointments.)
Dont force the issue or put pressure on them
If you try to pressure or force a friend to get help, it may come from a good place, but it can actually have the opposite effect to what you intend and could turn your friend off seeking help altogether.
Dont avoid them
If you avoid your friend, its likely to make them feel isolated. It may also mean that if and when theyre ready to seek help, they might not feel comfortable about coming to you for support.
If things are really serious
While, in most circumstances, it's a good idea to give a friend time to come around to the idea of seeking help, if you think someone is in danger or is at risk as a result of whats going on, its important that you seek help immediately.