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A definitive guide to waiting to text someone back: Is it petty or necessary?ShareMackenzie Behm
Make them suffer, obviously
Lets be real guys, waiting to text someone back can be considered petty, but sometimes its necessary, andits better than coming off as desperate.
I mean, if playing hard to getis so frowned upon, explain whyafamous poet once said Lets play a love game, play a love game. Do you want love, or you want fame? Are you in the game? Dans le love game. That poet is no other than Lady Gaga, our Lord and Savior.
when y'all ignoring each other & waiting for a text back but y'all both too damn petty to text first pic.twitter.com/6Wh2i0kcPv
FREDDY (@FreddyAmazin) June 19, 2016
Seriously though, why wouldnt I play games when thats the whole premise of flirting? Life itself plays games with me every day, and Id honestly bedamned if I didntplay them back.
Clearly Im a writer, and consequently, Im pretty garbage at math. Trust me though, Ive worked this down to a formula. After years, and years of pre-pubescent adulation towards guys, Ive worked out how long to wait to text back without coming off as a total psychopath.
Generally speaking, when youre waiting to text someone back, tack on time
if a mf don't text back in a reasonable time you getting ignored or I might text back 8 hrs later ?
BOSS (@_4everHumble) May 16, 2017
Match the time he took to text you, and then tack on five minutes (at least, in thebeginning). And for the love of God, do not double text unless its consecutive. Its the ridiculousnessof appearingseemingly busy while actually being low-key psychothatll get you wifed up. Theyll just have to find the psycho part out later.
Double the time or simply wait longer than usual to text back if
- It took more than three hours for him to respond, wait six.
- Hes dry AF.
- Hesends a risky text, he is most vulnerable in this state and will actually care that youre not responding.
- Hes out there posting on Snapchat or Twitter but still hasnt responded, #dumphim2k17. Youve got yourself a player theres only room for one of them in this game, and thats you. Dans le love game.
when you're ignoring someone's text but you're still up on Twitter pic.twitter.com/yfNYkXUK5M
Dory (@Dory) December 6, 2014
Brownie points! Take off the extra time if
- He liked your picture on Instagram. What a G.
- He sent you a friend request on Facebook. Hes finally stalking you back, how cute.
- Hes beenresponding in two minutes or less.
So, how long should you wait to text after a first date?
This depends on how it went, but generally speaking, make him suffer. Id say wait at least a day, and if you start to get worried that hell never text you again, try tagging him in a meme relevant to something youve spoken about or send him a snap of you being busy.
Those, however, arent conversation starters. So if youre planning on ~chatting him up~ you can send him a text but one text and one text only. Dont forget to make it interesting.
Yes of course I got your text I'm just ignoring it. Don't make it weird.
Anna Kendrick (@AnnaKendrick47) January 27, 2015
Will he even notice?
Probably not, which is the best thing about it all. If theres one thingIve learned about boys, its they rarely evercatch hints, which you can use to youradvantage. Sometimes its fun to play these games and secretly wonder if theyll ever catch on. If they dont, then nothing else you do really matters. Its like when guys say they like a girl with the natural-look, when in reality shes wearing a face full of make-up. Its these kind of things that makes you realize they truly areclueless.
unless you dying if i text you at 4:44 you better text me back at 4:44
Fuckisutalmbout (@hiatusj_) May 16, 2017
Is this psycho? Not really. If youre already overthinking your texts, you might as well have fun with it. This is the level of petty you should constantly be aspiring to, because if youre not doing the ~most~, then youre not doing enough.
Of course, this only works for the beginning stages of a relationship. If youre already committed with someone then mass text them, show up to their house at 2 a.m., do whatever I dont care youve already won the game.
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