Weve all been there. You meet someone at a party who catches your eye and strike up a conversation. Soon, the innocent banter between the two of you seems to be going well enough that it starts to get personal.
Then you hear those four words come out of theirmouth: Tell me about yourself.
Trying to figure out how to answer what feels like an interview questionand come up with the right things to say that will sound interesting enough to get themto like you without seeming rehearsed, can send you into a mild panic.
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Dont worry. Remember, the purpose of these "getting to know you" questions is to see if you can give an honest accounting about yourself without sounding boring or conceited.
You can excel at answering when someone you're dating asks you to tell them about yourself if you follow these six simple tips.
1. Remember: its not a job interview.
Keep in mind the person in front of you is not looking for a chronological list of your storied accomplishments. They are looking to see what your interests are; your likes and dislikes; what makes you tick.
They likewhat they seeon the outside, butwant to know if what theyhearmatches.
2. Emphasize those parts of your life youre most proud of.
They will want to see passion and enthusiasm about the things you enjoy the most. If you speak about those things matter-of-factly, it may give the impression that youre not passionate about your life.
Therefore, theymay wonder, how will you be passionate about being with them?
3. Be real.
Dont feel like you have to make something up to make yourself look better than the next person.
Also, if you are in a relationship, say so. The truth will always come outin the end.
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4. Keep it short and brief.
You want to keep your answer to between one to two minutes. Anything longer than that will seem more like bragging or rambling.
Plus, you want to allow enough time to inject your own question in between. When theyaskyou about yourself, theyalso wants you to be just as interested in them.
5. Definitely do not follow up with the same question.
It will indicate to themthat you dont have an original thought.
While you are telling themyour story, you want to look for any non-verbal cluestheygivebecause that will keep the conversation going around the topic theyseeminterested in.
6. Save your favorite interest until the end and ask, Have you done or tried this before?
This will do two things. It will show themthe activity that you really enjoy the most, and it will help you determine if you have something in common.
If theyhasnt participated in the activity then it opens the door to ask themout to give it a try. By leaving the door open, you will know if you aced this question if theywantto know even more about you.
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Keith Dent is a relationship coach and the author of In The Paint: How to Win the Game of Love. If you struggle with how to better present yourself in person, please contact him via email for a free consultation.