How to ask a girl for a date over text

How To Ask A Girl Out Over Text 10+ Examples That Get DatesPosted on 15 Feb 2022 by Louis Farfields in Texting tipsYou have a crush on someone and you want to know how to ask her

How to ask a girl for a date over text

How To Ask A Girl Out Over Text  10+ Examples That Get DatesPosted on 15 Feb 2022 by Louis Farfields in Texting tips

You have a crush on someone and you want to know how to ask her out over text awesome!

Now lets make sure you end up on a fun date with her

and not in her friendzone.

You get:

  • The 1 word you can never use when asking someone out
  • What to text if you ask her out and she has no time
  • 7 Copy-paste words to use that increase your chances on a date
  • A smart trick to avoid rejection
  • 10+ Good and bad example texts
  • 3 Texting mistakes that make her reject your date proposal
  • What good date proposals have in common with an F-117 Nighthawk
  • The best way to ask a girl out you already know
  • Plenty more juiciness

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How to use stories to get her on a date

If youve ever asked a girl out and she wasnt very excited

then your meet up text probably ticked some (or all) of these boxes:

1. It was boring
2. It conveyed little to no excitement
3. It didnt give her any feel of what a date with you would be like

And thats a problem, because people are attracted to things that make their lives better.

I have a simple method to make girls see that life would be better including yourself in it.

A method that triggers her emotions, and gets her excited to hang out with you.

And this simple method is exactly what you are getting in this video.

Its a short one of only 5 minutes and 5 seconds.

Thats 5:05 packed with solid, juicy information.

Ready to slide into your operating system.

Watch it now.

And for more screenshot examples, and how to avoid the most common mistakes, read on!

How NOT to ask someone out (most common mistakes)

Dont screw up with the girl you currently like!

Read this tip to avoid three of the most commonly made mistakes.

Ill bestow some juicy knowledge upon you, thanks to stories from my TextGod coach and friend, Dan.

#1: DONT escalate on a no (CALM DOWN!)

Sometimes someone wont be ready to date you yet.

And I say YET.

Because you can turn the tide.

The one thing to avoid is being impatient, and overly eager.

Because if you are, then chances are you WONT be able to turn the tide anymore.

Screenshot example?

In this example TextGod coach Dan is texting with a girl he met earlier on the street.

Theyre having a good time discussing food. At this point there are a couple signs she likes him.

Like her sending a selfie of herself eating corn on a cob (yes, thats a sign.)

Or she asking for a selfie of you (another sign.)

Or her double texting you and even asking if youre planning to visit her home turf (sign #3 & 4.)

So yeah, she likes good ol coach Dan.

But good ol coach Dan was put off by her showing too much interest. Especially the double text asking him over.

You might think well, I know I should not ask her out after she straight up ignores me, Louis!.

But there is a deeper lesson to be learned.

Here at Team TextGod we call it escalating on a no. It means that the other person is not complying. For example she sends you only two-word answers, or she doesnt text back for 2-3 days.

Her mood is a no. And out of mere desperation you might think okay, Im just going for it, Im going all in, and ask her out!!

Chances are extremely low that you get a yes when her mood is a no.

First get the conversation going with some fun banter. You can use some of my 10 Texts That Always Work to do this.

Only when the fun is there, THEN you ask her out.

Dont make the same mistake this lady made.

#2: DONT verbalize your feels

When coach Dan was at a musical festival, he met a girl well call Jenny.

At one point they were having a blast with some of those glitter 3D glasses. You know, those goggles you wear that change the way you see the world.

All the fun and festival vibes made Jenny very attracted to good ol Dan.

And suddenly she said:

Now I really want to have sex with you.

And by verbalizing it the tension evaporated.

Its one of those moments where both of you know what might happen. But because it is communicated indirectly instead of directly, tension keeps building.

Now did Dan reject this adventurous girl because she verbalized her desires?

Heck no, Dan is a simple man like you and I.

He told me they started walking towards his tent.


He continued,

During the whole 30 minute walk to my inflatable mattress, there was no more sexual tension. We had a fun conversation, but thats it.

Now if Dan was a woman, and Jenny was a man, you can bet your ass that there would have been no more bedroom acrobatics. Or at least less exciting acrobatics.

Because telling someone you like them PREMATURELY, can absolutely ruin your odds.

The correct way to do this, will appear on your screen further down this article

#3: DONT use the forbidden word

Mistake number 3 is so commonly made, that if we could erase it from existence, the amount of dates scored would soar by 69%

Can you remember the last time(s) you asked someone out over text?

How did you go about it?

Many men will pop the classic question:Hey Jenny, do you want to go on a date with me?

And throughout this article youll learn many WAY better ways to ask a girl out by text.

But right now Ill tell you that these guys are using the forbidden word.Date
Unknowing fella using the forbidden word

Lets do a quick thought experiment.

Think about the best date, or best dates youve had.

How did it feel?

Experience in again in your mind for a second.

Now answer this question:

Did this amazing date feel like a date?

Because my theory is that the best dates, dont feel like dates.

They feel more like hanging out with a cool guy/girl.

On top of that, a date is still something very official. Your grandparents went on dates and later got married. Thats how intense dates can be.

Whats more, if anyone has been on a DATE, their friends and anyone thats even just slightly acquainted, will want to know EVERYTHING about it afterwards.How was the date?!
Everyone you know and dont really know

My point?

Date is a dangerous word.

A word that wields the power to scare off a couple ladies.

The solution?

Ask her

  1. to hang, to hang out
  2. to meet, to meet up
  3. rendezvous if you want to sound fancy and literate
  4. grab a drink
  5. go for a walk
  6. sip a take-away cappuccino, grab a cup of Joe
  7. or to chill (careful with this ones relation to Netflix and chill which is a synonym for sex.)

All these alternatives allow your date proposal to fly under the radar. Increasing your success to ask a girl out via text.

Heres a U.S. Air Force F-117 Nighthawk, designed to avoid detection by radar, just like your date proposal.

Ill tell you how to properly ask her out in a bit, but first I want to safeguard you from another horrible mistake:

#4: How to ask a girl out for dinner over text

Oops, theres a mistake in this title.

It should have read:

How to get a one way ticket to the friendzone?

By making your first date a dinner date.

But I wont stop you. If you want a dinner date, you can have a dinner date. And Ill tell you how I would go about setting one up.

Before I do that however, allow me to quickly sum up the first 5 reasons that come to mind.

5 reasons why I wouldnt go for dinner on a first date:

  1. Youre seated across each other for three hours (instead of next to each other)
  2. Its expensive
  3. Its not dynamic (movement is your main wingman during the first date)
  4. Its hard to really be yourself because you need to respect the dinner experience of the people around you. Unless you dont give a fuck, but then your date will most likely be embarrassed about you.
  5. You cant get close. That means no physical contact either.

So, better do something casual as a first date.

BUT, if you are going for the dinner date anyway, then hit her up with something like:Hey! Do you know this place?

Next, you WAIT to see how she reacts.

If her reaction is anything positive, then tell anything like this:Im planning on checking it out soon, you should come!

Chances are shell ask you about the photo but doesnt react clearly positive or negative. Something along the lines of:No what is it?

Then you just briefly clarify:Its a restaurant I keep hearing great things about. Do you like the look of the place?

After that, youll have a good idea whether shes excited about this restaurant or not.


Last tip I said: Ill tell you how to properly ask her out in a bit.

Well, my friend, the time has come.

#5: Best way to ask a girl out via text message

In this tip Im going to show you how to ask a girl out through text the RIGHT way!

As discussed in tip 3, we wont be using the forbidden word.

And on top of that, well avoid doing what cucks do.

Know what were going to do?

Were going to fuck two girls with one condom.

Were going to catch two birds with one stone.

Firstly were not going to ASK her out. Were going to state that we should hang out.

Secondly, were not going to phrase it the way any man would. Were going to make the invitation a bit more expressive.

Lets go!

So how do we change that question into a statement? Its pretty easy. By deleting the question mark at the end of the sentence and changing the word order.

Continuing with the text from Tip #3:Hey Jenny, do you want to hang sometime?

Becomes:Hey Jenny, lets hang sometime.

Thats just the first step. Because this text is still pretty damn boring.

But at least now you take the lead. If she cant meet up shell still tell you, your texting just comes across much more assertive.

And if youre some celebrity or Milan Fashion Week model, that stuff will probably work.

But last time I checked, I write articles and youre probably clickety-clacketing behind your computer all day. So we have to put in some more effort.

So, if it were me inviting Jenny out, Id scribble down something like this:Hey Jenny, guess who accidentally found the citys best coffee bar yesterday? And guess whos going back there for a take-away cappuccino very soon? Can you also guess whos not selfish and will share said secrets with you, over a coffee?

Bang, I just blurted that out.

Of course Id change the text a little depending on what Jenny is like.

At the minimum, our date proposal is now more entertaining and lively. Shell probably giggle a little when reading this text message. While the classic Hey wanna go on a date with me? might have scared her off.

#6: How to ask her out for coffee (2 example texts)

If you dont know the answer to this question yet

then you deserve some harsh spanking.

The answer was in the last tips already. BUT

because the Lord is forgiving and generous, he shall bless you with another way.

Heres what you do.

One morning you hit her up with a coffee meme. A quick Google search supplied me with this one:Found a photo of you this morning

If shes into you at all, shell text back. Theres a fair chance her response will be along the lines of:Haha sometimes

OrHaha so true

Feel free to text back and forth a couple times, before hitting her up with the next meme.Ever tried this one?

At this point shes probably laughing at this silly latte art and coffee is on her mind.

Its time to ask her out.Haha lets go to a coffee bar some time and order a cappuccino. But well specifically ask for one with Ejaculatte art.

By the way, if the baristas are any cool, theyll gladly try making you one.

Like this one I got served when I asked for one:

Now you go get your own milk foam dick, together with the girl you like!

#7: Best way to ask a girl you already know out

You have a crush on someone you already know, correct?

(or maybe youve been in this situation before and you didnt know how to handle it)

Let me cut straight to the chase here.

The problem with asking out a girl you already know, is that theres a reason the two of you havent been out on a date yet.

You really like her.

You didnt want to lose her.

So you played it safe.

That means you laughed at her jokes, listened to her stories, were super friendly to her

And here is what was missing:

You have never presented yourself as a potential boyfriend.

When you suddenly declare your interest, it might shock her, and youll likely get rejected.

It doesnt work.

So what DOES work? What can you do now?

Heres your battle plan:

You need to very subtly poke her and probe her.

And then see how she reacts.

Is she down for 1 on 1 chilling?

Does she feel comfortable with the idea?

No? Then dont even tell her you like her. Youll get shot down.

Or maybe you already hang out with just the two of you, but you might be in the friendzone.

Then I have three more tests for you.

How does she react when you lightly touch her?

When youre in a group and you give her a friendly touch on the shoulder, or you playfully throw your arm around her does she pull back?

Or when youre with a group and something funny happens and everyone laughs

who does she look at? Does she look you in the eye? Maybe she even touches you?

If thats the case, yeah, then she probably likes you.

BUT EVEN THEN you still dont tell her that you like her.

Instead, you gently keep on raising the temperature.

By making flirty comments for example.

I have bad news for you

Shell look at you all confused.

You are wearing the sexiest dress I cant keep my eyes off you so Ill have to ignore you for the rest of the day.

Does she laugh when you flirt with her like that?

Or does she pull the hand brake and take more distance?

Its by using these little tests that you find out in an attractive way.

Instead of suddenly flooding her with your emotions.

#8: Case study: a student example

Ever asked someone out and she said she didnt have time?

Maybe she had an exam or a family event or her dog was getting castrated or WHATEVER.

The important part is that she couldnt make it.

And now youre in a tricky situation.

Just like one of the guys on my newsletter was.

He emailed me, saying he asked a girl out and when she texted back

she told him she was on vacation until Tuesday.

When this happens to you, youre thinking: OH COMON! Propose another time to meet up then!

It feels bad asking for a date a second time. And if shes not available for your second proposal eitherthen youre totally screwed.

The guy wanted to text her this:Ok enjoy, let me know when youre back

Assuming she would then text him after her vacation, and he could fix things from there.

But his friends said he had to lock in a date NOW.

So he texted this:One of the days after Tuesday then?


This text has a bit of a needy vibe to it. And again, the ball is now in her court. What if she doesnt text back after her vacation?

Now you might be thinking: well if she doesnt text him back after her vacation, then shes clearly not interested.

Fair enough. But that could be because she hasnt had the chance yet to be charmed by the guy, face to face.

So, my dearest reader and best friend, heres a line I use from time to time, in gnarly situations like this:(Psst this is the moment where you say: Luckily I am available at another time Louis! In fact, I am free on)

A quick line that often brings fruitful harvests.

Just like it did in this screenshot example:

Bang bang!

What a desirable response that was.

Holy Tip:

You might want to be a smart TextGod disciple and do your homework.

Because when you finally got her out on a date, a new problem arises.

What to text a girl after the date? If you read this article already now, it will give you all the preparation you need. Including some juicy text examples..

#9: How to make rejection fun when you ask her out by text

If youre scared of rejection, then read this tip and youll feel more confident asking her out.

When my team and I were doing a tour around Europe, we had a standard first (Tinder) date plan.

Its a plan that turns possible rejection into a party.

Heres what you do:

Whenever you invite someone over to hang, you make sure to invite her to something you like a lot.

In our case: Virtual Reality gaming.

If your date is excited to see you: GREAT!

Because now you get to spend time with a girl you like.

If your date stays silent, rejects, or flakes: ALSO GREAT!

Because now you get to hit better scores since you dont have a girl as a teammate.

I remember coach Dan being super happy when his date texted she couldnt make it. Because now we could try and hit a new personal record in the Elven Archer game.


Those were some insights about how to ask a girl out over text.

Do with them as you wish, Ill see you in the next article, or on YouTube.

Louis Farfields

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Umar Faruk says:May 1, 2020 at 10:14 pm

I have my friend. In starting there were less talks. After dat very few talks on phone nd just casual chats. She told me 2 inform her alaways when dere is online lecture. Now plzz guide me I want 2 make her girlfriend.. even many are thinking nd into itt nowReply

Brian says:March 24, 2020 at 9:41 am


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