How to ask someone out without actually saying it

Who else had a Sadie Hawkins dance in middle or high school? You know, basically Bumble before it was Bumble. Even 16-year-old girls want the autonomy of asking their partner out!C

How to ask someone out without actually saying it

Who else had a Sadie Hawkins dance in middle or high school? You know, basically Bumble before it was Bumble. Even 16-year-old girls want the autonomy of asking their partner out!

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For so long, women have been told they cant make the first move. Were supposed to wait for him to walk up to us at the bar, send the first text, follow us on IG first (anyone else?), ask our friend about us, slide in the DMs, message us first on Tinderall of these simple ideas have been gendered in a way to make women feel small and show that men are the ones who go after want they want. (Yeah, I went there.)

Dating doesnt have to be a one-way street; there are so many ways to approach a guy (or anyone) youre interested in without feeling awkward (OK well a little) or stressed about rejection. If youve been wondering how to ask someone out, follow these tips and youll be sippin margs on date three in no time.

1. Reframe what rejection is and isnt

Many of us have quite narrow views of what rejection actually means. Its important to realize that if someone rejects you, it doesnt mean that you are:

  • Ugly
  • Not good enough
  • Weird
  • Annoying
  • Dumb
  • Any of the self-deprecating words youve used in the past

Weve all rejected people (or jobs, etc.) in the past, and most of us havent thought those awful things about the person. Sometimes, its the timing or that youre seeing someone elsethere are dozens of reasons someone might get rejected, and it doesnt say anything about you when you. Understand that rejection is a simple part of life, and it doesnt make you inadequate for love if one person isnt interested in you.

2. Confidence is hot

Most of us love confidence in a partnerand its likely the person youre asking out will think the same! When you feel confident in yourself, especially in the person you are, it makes this process significantly easier. Start here first, and then build on this!

3. Read their body language

Everyone knows body language is an important aspect of reading someone, but when youre about to ask someone out (especially in person), its necessary to look into how someone might feel around you. If the person looks comfortable and excited to be with you, its likely theyd be ecstatic to go on a date with you! However, if they look closed-off or bored, asking them out might not result in an answer you want.

These are the signs that say its a yes:

  • Eye contact
  • They lean into you
  • They innocently touch you
  • They try to make themselves look nice fix the hair, flatten the shirt, etc.
  • They emulate your body language  you come closer, they come closer; you cross your arms, they cross their arms; etc.

4. Figure out what you have in common

Alright, now that weve established the ground rules, we can get into the meat of this process. First: actually get to know them. No, you dont have to wait until the first date to get some insight into who they are. Find out what they like and what you two have in common. For example, if they say they love a certain artist that you also love, ask them to see that artists concert with you.

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5. Invite them on a group date

Group dates are a no-pressure way to get to know someone. Invite them for drinks or to see a show with you and a group of your friends. If they just want to be friends, this kind of date wont make them feel awkward and allows you to get to know each other further to see if you want to be more than friends in the future. If they can see you in a group setting, theyll be excited and interested to hang out with you one-on-one in the future.

This also allows you to interact with this person in a stress-free environment. Dates are awkward, we all know this. However, when youre surrounded by people you already feel comfortable with, its easy to get in your groove.

6. Ask them to join

This is the easiest, most foolproof way to ask someone out. If you already have plans to go to dinner, drinks, a movie, a museum, an event, or basically anything, tell them to come. You should come!three, no-sweat words that automatically let this person know youre interested in getting to know them more (which probably encourages them to want to know you better too). Youre already planning to have fun, so not why invite them to have fun with you?

This also makes rejection a little bit sweeter. If they cant come for whatever reason, theyre not rejecting you youre going with your friends already, they would just be a bonus.

This is a very organic way to ask someone out via text. For example, if you and your friends were already planning to go to brunch this weekend, text the person you want to ask out saying: Hey! My friends and I are going to brunch on Saturday. You should come! Let me know! It seriously couldnt be easier.

7. Buy them a drink

Women are fully capable of buying drinks for men!!! Ill shout it from the rooftops! This doesnt have to be creepy or sleazy either. See a cute guy at the bar and keep making eye contact? Walk up and make a joke about his drink order. My go-to is to ask who he thinks has the most basic drink orderusually, I lose, so I buy him a drink to celebrate his winning. Just like when a guy buys you a drink at the bar, he isnt obligated to talk or hang out with you by any means. Think of it as a way to break the ice.

8. Understand when its not reciprocated

If youre the only one asking them out over and over again, this might be a sign that this relationship is one-sided after all. Pay attention to how often youre asking them out in comparison to how much they reciprocate. If it seems that youre the one doing it time and time again, it might be time to move on. Onto the next one!

Did you ask your partner out? How did you do it? Share with us in the comments below!

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