Talking to women on Facebook is similar to talking to women that you meet in person. Essentially, when you talk to a woman on Facebook you have to:
- Use humor so she enjoys talking to you.
- Come across as a cool, likeable guy so she wants to associate herself with you.
- Be confident so she feels attracted to you.
- Flirt with her and build up the sexual tension between you so she wants to have sex with you.
- Get her phone number so you can call her and set up a date.
The DOs and DONTs of Talking to Women on Facebook
The secret of how to talk to women on Facebook is to stand out from the crowd by being the sort of guy that a woman wants to talk to and be associated with. That means:
1. Do post photos of you having a lot of fun with other people
Many women now use Facebook as a screening process to sort out the cool guys from the loners. Although many guys will feel annoyed at women for being so superficial and wanting to hook up with guys who will make their Facebook profile look cooler, thats just how a lot of women think these days. A woman wants to see that if she hooks up with you, she will have opportunities to get great photos posted to her Facebook wall. Lame yes, but thats modern life unfortunately. If there is nothing going on in your life according to your Facebook photos and posts, most modern women arent going to feel super excited to be associated with you as a lover or girlfriend on Facebook.
2. Dont post lonely photos of you at home alone
This is the biggest mistake that I see guys (who are not getting any results with women) making. They take selfie after selfie of themselves alone at home, alone at the train station, alone at a take away food store, etc. Loneliness is not attractive to women, so if you want to use Facebook to talk to women, make sure you dont post up your lonely moments in life.
3. Dont post pity me status updates about your life
Another big mistake that guys make is posting up pity me status updates like, Why is life so hard? or UghhhMonday again. I hate my life. It is fine for women to do that, but not for men. Most women are more attracted to men who are mentally and emotionally strong (i.e. an alpha male) and turned off by emotionally weak men (e.g. shy guys, nervous guys, clingy guys, etc).
4. Dont post like a girl
Some guys will post status updates like a woman like, Oh no you didnt! Just left McDonalds and am so pissed off! The staff were so rude! I hate McDonalds now!! or OMG!! Just saw Megan Fox on TV and my heart skipped a beat!!! I have a big crush on her!! Posting like a girl will never, ever make a woman feel attraction for you. The only guys who can post up status updates like a girl and get laughs and women feeling more attraction for him as a result, is a guy who is a confident, alpha male in real life. If youre a nervous, shy guy who lacks masculinity in real-life interactions and then you post up things on Facebook like a girl would, you will turn women off you even more.
When talking a woman on Facebook, you must be a masculine guy and not use or copy her girly, cute, feminine style of communication. Why? Women are attracted to a mans masculinity and turned off when a guy is too feminine in his approach, behavior and thinking. Some guys mistakenly believe that if their messages are cute, sweet and full of compliments that a woman will be much more open to talking with them. However, the opposite is true. The more you behave like her, the less interested she will be in talking to you.
Some examples of a girly style of communication:
- Hi! i think ur pic is sooooo cuuute!
- U look sooo GR8!
- Wow, ur 2 cute. Lol!
- I lyke ur profile and want 2 talk 2 you. Do u wanna talk 2 me 2?
- OMG!!! So cuuuuuuute ^__^
Behaving like a woman or like a little boy (instead of behaving like a masculine man or alpha male) is just not attractive to women. Are you attracted to butch lesbians who behave like men? If youre not a weirdo, then you would of course say, No and would instead be attracted to feminine, sexy women. The same applies when talking to women on Facebook: They are not going to feel attracted to you if you behave like a girl. Women feel attraction to a guys masculine behavior, thinking, actions and communication style, so if you can display that when you talk to a woman on Facebook, she will be much more interested in talking to you and seeing you in person.
Here are some butch lesbians and then some feminine women to give you a graphic example of what I mean
Look at the two different types of women above. Are you more attracted to the butch lesbians who behave like men or the feminine women? When you behave like a girl or like a little boy on Facebook, women feel as much attraction for you as you feel for butch lesbians. Why? Just like you are attracted to feminine women, women are attracted to masculine men. So, dont behave like a girl on Facebook or you will be as unattractive to women as those butch lesbians are to you. Embrace your masculinity and be a man.
5. Dont immediately hit on a woman when you add her as a friend
The above approach doesnt work for two main reasons:
- Most attractive women get those type of messages from random guys every day or at least once a week: I have plenty of attractive female friends and Ive seen the sort of messages that some of them get on a daily basis. Additionally, my girlfriend (who has her status set to being in a relationship with me) still gets random guys sending her messages like, Hi! Wanna chat? or Wow! Youre beautiful. Add me so we can chat :) many times per week.
- To get a woman to want to talk to you, she first has to feel attraction for you: Whether you meet a woman in person or online, you first have to spark her attraction for you. If youre feeling sexually attracted to her because of her sexy photo, but she isnt feeling anything for you, then shes not going to be very interested in talking to you.
6. Dont bombard her with messages
Most women have a life or at least have enough responsibilities in life to feel busy. No matter how much fun she has when talking to you, messaging her too often will result in her losing interest in chatting with you because the novelty of it will wear off and will also make you appear as though you have nothing else going on in your life.
No matter what age a woman is, she is always going to be more attracted to guys who go after their true potential in life and do not hide from the world behind an online persona. To get a woman to feel attraction for you and want to meet you in person, you need to maintain a balanced life rather than just focusing on her or spending all night chatting to people on Facebook. Ideally, you want a woman to log on to her Facebook page and wonder, Am I going to hear from him today? I hope he messages me! and when she doesnt hear from you, you want her to feel disappointed and as though she is missing out because youre probably out somewhere having a great time without her.
Living on Facebook and avoiding the rest of what life has to offer you can lead to you displaying clingy, needy and desperate behavior, all of which is unattractive to women. The best approach to use when talking to women on Facebook is to leave a couple of days gap in between bursts of chatting for 5-10 minutes. However, your number one goal should always be to get her on the phone and then arrange to see her in person.
7. Dont pretend to be an innocent friend who just wants to chat.
Some guys put on an act of just wanting to be innocent friends with a woman on Facebook, because they are too afraid of being rejected by her after showing sexual or romantic interest. However, being liked as a friend by a woman is not the same as having her feel attraction and desire for you, or making her want to meet you in person and have sex with you. For a woman to want to be more than just friends with you, she needs to feel sexually attracted to you and the bottom line is if youre just being a sweet, friendly guy who only wants to talk online, she will enjoy the attention while she goes out in real life and has sex with a real guy.
8. Dont hide behind messages Get her on the phone and arrange a time to see each other in person
The worst thing you can do when talking to women on Facebook is to keep messaging her for weeks and never actually getting her on a phone call. If you wait too long to get her on the phone and organize a time to see each other in person, she will either lose interest in chatting to you or hook up with another guy that she has met in person. When you talk to a woman on the phone, she will feel attraction for you more rapidly than via Facebook messages because she will able to experience your confident, charismatic personality and feel great when you make her laugh. However, if you just message her all the time, she will be less-likely to feel any sort of attraction for you and may even feel turned off by your communication style.
What to Say When You Contact Her
What to say when you contact a woman via Facebook really depends on whether she is a cold, warm or hot contact.
- Cold contact: You dont know her and are just randomly contacting her.
- Warm contact: She is a friend of a friend.
- Hot contact: Youve met her in person or already know her well.
If youd like to know exactly what to say when you first contact women on Facebook, I recommend that you watch Approaching and Talking to Women: For Beginners. I provide my best, tested examples for contacting different types of women on Facebook and then escalating to a phone call so you can set up a date.
Talking Online vs. Talking Face-to-Face
Online, anyone can pretend to be better, cooler and more confident than they are in real life. Most women realize this and as a result, they dont get sold on a guy until they talk to him on the phone or in person. Facebook is a new way of communicating for humans and if you want to use it to meet women, you should only use it as a way to get a womans phone number and then set up a date.
If you spend too much time trying to come up with clever things to say to a woman on Facebook, you will likely end up saying the wrong things or appearing as though you dont have the guts to talk to her on the phone or in person. Then, when she meets a confident guy in real life, she will begin a sexual relationship with him and you will be quickly forgotten. You might be a very confident, self-assured and even witty guy when youre talking to women online, but if youre lost for words, anxious and insecure on a phone call or date, she will be looking to get away from you as fast as possible without hurting your feelings too much.
Being Afraid to Talk to Women in Real Life
These days, an increasing number of men are afraid to approach and talk to women in real life because they develop a warped perception of women by watching too much porn and by believing what they see in music videos, movies and TV drama shows as being how women think and behave in real life. After a while, a guy begins to perceive women as being way more valuable than him and may even begin to copy the loveable loser behavior that he sees male characters display in Hollywood movies, only to later realize that in real life, women are attracted to confident guys, not shy, nervous, pity me type guys who somehow manage to get laid in every Hollywood movie.
Unfortunately for many guys, talking to women on Facebook is often the only positive female attention they can get. In their everyday life, they are so nervous and self-doubting around women that women dont show them any interest other than just being friendly. Yet, little do many of these guys know, just because a woman talks to him online and ends her messages with smiley faces LOLs!!!! and xoxox, it doesnt mean shes hoping and yearning for him to become her boyfriend. More often than not she is just enjoying the attention and is also talking to and being pursued by many guys online at the same time.
Regardless of how many smiley faces and LOLs a woman sends you, she isnt going to reject a confident guy who talks to her in real life, just because shes being LOLing with you online. She will happily go out on dates and have sex with guys who dont hide behind Facebook or text messages and simply get her on a date and then escalate to sex.
What Does Your Facebook Profile Say About You?
These days, many women are happy to quickly add a guy on Facebook to assess his profile and determine whether he is a cool guy or a lonely guy. If she adds you on Facebook and sees an endless stream of lonely selfies, pity me and confused status updates about life, she will usually unfriend you or simply ignore you from then on.
If you fear talking to women in real life and dont have many close friends or live a fun lifestyle, Facebook isnt going to be your savior. You might be able to get women to add you or chat to you, but if they see that youre not a confident guy and really dont have much going on in your life, they usually arent going to be excited to talk to you or see you in real life. It may be superficial of women to want to associate themselves with cool guys who can add some value to their life, but thats just how women are behaving these days. Getting more likes and comments on her Facebook is like a drug for most women. When you add women on Facebook, you want them to look at your profile and think, Wow, this guy is cool. I would feel proud to be his girlfriend rather than, Ohnothing going on herethis guy would be embarrassing to have as a boyfriend.
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