Do you really have to know how to introduce yourself to a girl?
Well, yeahat least if you want to
- Meet women in malls, cafes, and on the street.
- Text a girl after you get her number.
- Approach women online.
Where will you meet her?
You need to have this skill. Think about it. Every interaction, no matter where and when, starts with a simple introduction. Unfortunately, a lot of guys use these three seconds to mess up a potential three-year relationship.
This can be easily avoided.
Just dont make the same mistakes I made. Dont walk up to a girl like a total creep. And dont start off the conversation with a lame joke about why women have less brain cells than men. Dont laugh. I did that once.
Okay, youre probably smarter than me.
But you still need to know how to make an amazing first impressionQuick Navigation6 Tips to Introduce Yourself to a Girl and Get Her Number 1. Introduce Yourself with a Smile2. Introduce Yourself and the Situation 3. Shake the Hand of a Woman 4. Say Your Name and Try to Remember Hers 5. Dont Forget the Positive Feelings 6. Remember that the Introduction is Just the Beginning How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl: Different Example Situations 1. The Best Lines to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in Person2. The Best Way to Introduce Yourself to a Girl on an Online Dating Site3. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in Online Chats like Facebook4. The Best Way to Introduce Yourself to a Girl at the Gym5. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl Through Text6. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in High School or CollegeSummed Up Wisdom
6 Tips to Introduce Yourself to a Girl and Get Her Number
Let me start this article with an important message:
Warning, warning, this article will self-destruct in five seconds. Okay, that was a joke and a terrible one. Sorry for that. But yes, I really have to warn you. I have to warn you that the following tips contain very basic information.
But they can make all the difference.
I decided to include some basic tips AND specific situations. Yep, I want to show you how to introduce yourself to a girl in different situations. I also link to guides in which I talk about these different situations in detail. I hope you like it.
But first, lets start with the basic tips
1. Introduce Yourself with a Smile
I saw it so many times.
Ive done dozens of one-on-one coaching sessions over the last couple of years. I coached young men, old men, guys who never had a girlfriend, and divorced men. All of my coaching clients are great men and now also great seducers, but most of them had one flaw.
They didnt smile.
Hey, I warned you. The advice is basic but important. Most aspiring seducers dont do it. They just dont. They walk up to a girl looking like the lovechild of the Terminator and Silvester Stallone after too many Botox injections.
I know why they do it:
- They are nervous.
- They are afraid to make a mistake.
- As a result, they tense up and mess up.
Start with a smile. Then walk up to her. Smile before you take the first step. This wont just make you feel better. It will ensure that you actually smile when you introduce yourself. And believe me, an introduction without a smile is not a good idea.
She doesnt know if youre a decent guy who wants to say hi or a psychopath who wants to rape her.
Without a smile shell assume the latter.
2. Introduce Yourself and the Situation
Pickup artists call this the situational opener.
Heres the idea:
You introduce yourself to a girl by mentioning the situation. This means that your approach changes with the environment. You dont have one specific line. You adjust your opener to the place youre in or the time youre meeting her.
Let me give you a few examples:
- In a club: The music sucks but wow, you are really beautiful.
- At the park: I just came here to read a book, but then I saw you.
- At night: I know that its already dark but I have to know your name.
- At the train station: I hope your train is late because I have to tell you something.
These are just a couple of examples.
All you have to do is to adjust your opener to the situation.
3. Shake the Hand of a Woman
Thats another mistake some of my coaching clients make.
Of course, they only make this mistake until I correct it. Then they do it correctly. The result: A smiling girl and a new number in their phone. The change is so small, yet so powerful. Its about the way you shake a womans hand.
Heres how most men do it:
- They give a short handshake.
- They shake her hand as if she was a man.
- They dont hold eye contact while shaking her hand.
I know. Youve shaken a lot of hands in your career. You know how its done. But let me tell you something. Shaking the hand of a business man is not the same as shaking the hand of fragile woman whos physically weaker than you.
Heres how a seducer shakes a womans hand:
- He gives a long handshake.
- He softly shakes her hand because shes a woman.
- He holds eye contact and smiles while shaking her hand.
Do you see the difference?
Shake her hand as if it was a precious flower.
4. Say Your Name and Try to Remember Hers
We love to hear our names.
Blame your parents. Its not only your moms fault that you thought buying flowers and chocolate for a girl will get you late. Its also her fault (your dad is also not innocent) that you love to hear your nameyou little narcissist.
But seriously, hearing your name gives you the feeling of being engaged.
Please correct me if Im wrong, but thats the goal of an approach. You want to engage her in the conversation. Thats why asking her for her name. And yes, you have to remember iteven if its terribly long.
You should mention her name every couple of minutes. Salesmen do this all the timesome of them way too many times. But anyway, youre a seducer. Your job is to sell yourself and your sexual service. So dont forget to mention her name.
Shell remember how her daddy used to call her. Now you can be her daddy.
5. Dont Forget the Positive Feelings
Dont be German.
Thats the most important rule if you want to learn how to introduce yourself to a girl. Dont behave like your average German. I only made it to the other side because I said bye bye to my home country a long time ago.
Heres what you shouldnt do:
- Be serious.
- Talk about serious topics.
- Staring at her like a criminal.
Not a good idea.
Germans are the world champions in making women feel uncomfortable. Thats why I want you to do the opposite. Make a funny statement. Crack a joke. Make her laugh with a funny gesture. Just make her feel good.
A woman who feels good in your presence wants to make you feel good.
6. Remember that the Introduction is Just the Beginning
Its just the beginning.
Yes, youre here because you want to know how to introduce yourself to a girl. And thats great. But dont forget the big picture. You cant shake her hand until the end of times. You have to take things to the next level.
Here are some ideas for the next level:
- You want to connect with her.
- You want to share stories and experiences with her.
- You want to share saliva and other body fluids with her.
Why do I mention this?
Well, I mention the saliva and the body fluids because Im a disgusting pig. But I mention the fact that you want to reach the next level because a lot of guys forget about it. They approach girls, make a great first impression, and then they do nothing.
They walk away without a number and without a date.
You want more.
Dont just introduce yourself to any random girl without a goal in mind. Its okay to practice introducing yourself at the beginning. But sooner or later you have to take things further. Thats how you make her your girlfriendor at least sleep with her.
My book Rise of the Phoenix will show you how to take things far beyond the sun.
How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl: Different Example Situations
Lets have a look at specific situations.
I just shared some basic introduction tips with you. Now I want to share advice for specific situations with you. Im pretty sure I included the most common situations. However, if you have another environment in mind, you can leave a comment and I do my best to answer it.
Here are the situations I included:
- In person.
- On an online dating site.
- In an online chat like Facebook.
- At the gym.
- Through text
- In high school or college.
Are you ready to learn how to introduce yourself to a girl no matter where you are?
Then continue reading
1. The Best Lines to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in Person
This is the most common situation.
You walk down the street and then suddenly the time stops. You feel as if somebody hit the pause button. Youre walking in a busy city but the only thing you see is her. Shes so incredibly attractive. You have to introduce yourself to her.
You walk up to her and right before she sees you, you turn around.
Well, because you dont know what to say. Heck, you dont even know how to start the conversation. Dont worry. Youre not alone. A lot of guys have this problem. Thats why I decided to give you a couple of lines for the perfect start.
Here you go:
- Excuse me, I just saw you and had to talk to you.
- Are you in a hurry or do you have a second?
- I have to tell you something really quickly.
- Hey, can I ask you a quick question.
I hope these examples help you.
Im sure you can come up with your own lines to introduce yourself to a woman in person.
2. The Best Way to Introduce Yourself to a Girl on an Online Dating Site
How do I introduce myself to a girl on an online dating site?
The most important rule:
You dont do what everyone else does.
Please dont start the conversation with hey or hi. Thats lame. Address her by her name (remember, we love to hear our name) or give her a cute nickname. And please, for Gods sake, make it personal. Dont send a copy and paste message.
Yes, I know. I do it all the time in my international dating site reviews.
But I already said that youre smarter than me. Look at her profile and send her a personal message. Make it longer and better than your competition. And dont forget to include a funny P.S. at the end that motivates her to reply to your message.
For more information you can check out this article about starting conversations on an online dating site.
3. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in Online Chats like Facebook
What if you contact her on Facebook?
Dont be creepy. Thats the most important rule of all. Theres no other place on earth where men are creepier than on Facebook. Thats why some dating coaches dont even touch this subject. Picking up girls on Facebook? Hell no! But you know me.
Im stupid enough to walk into the lions den.
Here are the basic rules for introducing yourself to a girl in online chats:
- Find a common hobby or passion.
- Ask her about this hobby and passion.
- Connect with her by sharing your own experience.
The good news:
Women make it so damn easy for you. Look at the Facebook profile of an average 22-year-old girl. She reveals everything about herself. The only thing thats not on her Facebook profile is her breast size. But hey, you just have to look at her selfies to figure that one out.
Analyze the information and attack her with your knowledge.
Oh, and read this guide about hitting on girls on Facebook.
4. The Best Way to Introduce Yourself to a Girl at the Gym
Now thats tricky.
I love the situations that are almost impossible. Remember, its only impossible until you make it possible. Thats also true for introducing yourself to women at the gym. Its not creepy if you follow a few simple rules.
Here they are:
- Dont stare at her like a horny dog.
- Dont approach her while shes lifting.
- Dont play the creepy gym instructor.
Come on. You know what I mean. Dont be the guy who walks up to her and says actually, youre doing it wrong. Its lame and shes probably fitter than you. Instead, wait until she has no barbell in her hand and say hi.
This gym guide shows you what to do after you said hi.
5. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl Through Text
How do you do it with a simple text message?
Dont be lame. Yep, thats all you have to do. I mean, you already talked to her in person or online. Or did your friend give you the number of the last girl he banged and she has no clue who you are? Well, the following tips could even work in this weird situation.
Heres what you do:
- Start the message with a funny/sarcastic joke.
- Send her a selfie or a meme.
- Send her a voice message.
I prefer voice messages, but there are different options.
I introduce all these options in this article about text game.
6. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in High School or College
High school is all about social hierarchies.
College is no different. You have the popular cool kids and the unpopular nerds. I always belonged to the second groupuntil I did one thing. Yep, Im still a nerd (God, I love Star Wars). But Ive also been one of the cool kids in my college in England.
Yes, you can also approach girls in your college class or in your high school class. But I have a better idea.
Heres what I did:
- I introduced myself to everyone on campus.
- Thats how I built up a reputation as the social guy.
- I naturally met dozens of beautiful girls with this technique.
Are you ready for the incredibly creative line I used?
Heres my boring but effective line:
Hey, Im Sebastian. Are you also studying subject X?
Then I started a conversation. I talked about how Im new on campus (which was true) and how I want to meet interesting people (which was also true). I did this over and over again. Thats how I build up a social circle with many beautiful women.
Heres how to get these beautiful women in your bed.
Summed Up Wisdom
Are you ready to learn how to introduce yourself to a girl? Then stop walking up to her as if you were a serial killer (youre hopefully not). You dont want to win a Terminator contest. Instead, I want to see a bright smile on your lips.
Your approach depends on the situation. But your handshake doesnt depend on the size of her hands. Shes a woman and not your male business partner. Shake her hand as if its a precious flower. And no, squashing precious flowers is not cool.
Can you remember her name? I hope the answer is yes because you should mention it more than once. And dont forget to make her smile. What if you want to know how to introduce yourself in different situations? The links in the article guide you to the right source.Summary
Article NameHow to Introduce Yourself to a Girl (With Examples)DescriptionDo you really have to know how to introduce yourself to a girl? Well, yeahat least if you want to- Meet women in malls, cafes, and anywhere else...AuthorSebastian HarrisPublisher NameGlobal SeducerPublisher Logo