So, youve crossed over the hard part, initiating contact and exchanging numbers.
Your interest is evident and you might even think she is just as into it.
Things are going in your favour and you decide to text her one fine evening, but unlike having conversations with someone in person, you dont really know how to go about it.
While answers can be pretty straightforward while texting with someone, what it lacks is letting us know the tone in which they are being sent.
Questions like whether she is being sarcastic, or funny or flirty can often cloud your judgement and make the process all the more tedious. It might even take focus away from important things like getting to know her personality.
And just so you dont fall into that trap of getting lost in translation, here are a few tips and tricks to keep in mind in order to really try to get to know someone over text without always second-guessing yourself:
1. Be Bold
Instead of trying to be implicit or reading in between lines, be bold and straightforward. Chances are, the more honest you will be about yourself, the more genuineness it will beget from the other person.
Share that intimate detail about yourself, ask her what really cheers her up after a hard day, and be as transparent as you can be so that the other person doesnt shy away from being honest either.
2. Ask For Opinions© iSock
The best way to know a person is to find out what kind of opinions they have about things.
And by that, I dont mean about the weather or the food. I mean asking their opinions for real things that matter, fidelity, politics, life, music, culture and so on.
Its not necessary that you might have matching views, but youd at least have a fair sense of idea about their likes, dislikes and philosophies.
Another important thing to keep in mind while trying to get to know a person is by asking them questions and spending time listening to what they have to say.
Often during a conversation, we tend to get over-excited about a topic and take over the entire conversation by narrating tales or keeping our point of view ahead.
However, it is equally important to sit back and just listen, because trust me, there is no other feeling than knowing that youre being heard.
4. Fight The Urge To Change The Topic© iSock
There are times when things get intense or serious over text. You could be talking about your past, your future or your insecurities, and it might even intimidate you a little.
However, it is advisable to not change the subject at the slightest hint of discomfort or dilute it with emojis.
Dont be afraid to talk about uncomfortable topics, to keep the conversation going. Because when you do that, you dont just come off as disinterested but also, rude.