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What do you call a text message that's flirty, but not yet a sext? A flext? I'm still brainstorming.

Regardless of the term, connecting with someone over text has become increasingly common, especially in an age when our phones never leave our side. Although making a move via text may seem a bit impersonal, it can be a good way to test the waters of a new relationship.ADVERTISEMENT

"You know your crush is receptive to flirting if he or she is responsive," says Barbara Greenberg PhD, a clinical psychologist who specializes in family and relationship issues. "Pupils dilate when a person is interested in you. Look into the eyes of the one you are flirting with. They speak volumes."

If you're mostly limited to texting or online messaging, Dr. Greenberg confirms what many of us already know: More than likely, your crush is into you if they carry on the conversation and respond without too much of a lag time.Related Stories


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At a loss for the words (and emojis!) to send to someone? I put together some tried-and-true text messages to send when you want to flirt but haven't started sexting yet. (But if you're already there, here's how to kick the conversation up a notch.)1 of 32

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"This reminded me of you" (Send with photo).

Why it works: Visual reminders are great, especially if it's an inside joke or cute animal. And you know what they say  a picture's worth a thousand words.2 of 32

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"I'm totally craving sushi right now."

Why it works: It's completely unassuming  a good approach to take if you're teetering towards the thought that they aren't quite into it. But also a great segue into one of a relationship's most important factors: are you food compatible?ADVERTISEMENT3 of 32

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"If I said 'come over,' what would you say?"

Why it works: Everyone knows why you want them to come over  and it isn't to watch a movie. But what's really great about this one is that it lets your crush know that you want to see them, but still leaves the choice up to them. If they're into you and don't have any pressing commitments, then there's a good chance that they'll say they can be there asap.4 of 32

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"Do you miss me yet?"

Why it works: Use this one when you've just left your bae-to-be or if you haven't spoken to them in a while. Either way, it's a smug way to make sure you're on their mind and to let them know that if they don't miss you, then they should.5 of 32

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"You're at the top of my wish list."

Why it works: Channel your inner Mariah Carey to let your crush know what you really want this year.6 of 32

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"You, me, dinner at 7. Let's go."

Why it works: Sometimes you just want to cut right to the chase. Own your confidence and let your crush know it's time for a date, ASAP. Do your research and plan something they're sure to love, and hopefully plenty more dates will follow.7 of 32

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"I have so much to do, but I keep getting distracted thinking about you."

Why it works: Whether or not you're actually super busy, let your crush know that they're on your mind, even when you're supposed to be thinking of something else. Feel free to follow it up with a compliment  a little flattery never hurt anyone.ADVERTISEMENT8 of 32

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"What are you passionate about?"

Why it works: Use this one when you want to go a little deeper. Share your passions to really get to know your crush on a personal level. This way, you can start establishing a stronger emotional connection and find out all the important things you have in common.9 of 32

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"It's so chilly out, I need you to come warm me up."

Why it works: Whether it's cold out or just the air conditioning, let your crush know they should come over and cuddle with you.10 of 32

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"Just worked out, ready to hit the showers!"

Why it works: A post-workout text is a classic way to get your crush thinking about you in some steamier situations. You might be getting clean, but the conversation doesn't have to be.11 of 32

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Why it works: Find a shared interest to strike up an instant connection with your crush. Whether it's a sporting event, a new episode of a TV show you love, or an album that just dropped from your favorite artist, spark a natural conversation by connecting over what you have in common. Looking for an excuse to hang out? Suggest you check out your shared interest together next time.12 of 32

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"My dog/cat misses you!"

Why it works: Almost no one can resist the cuteness of an adorable pet Snap (which would obviously accompany this text). Let your crush know they're on your mind without the sappiness of a traditional, "I miss you." Send this when you subtly want to let them know they should come over  first to see your pet, but most importantly to hang with you.ADVERTISEMENT13 of 32

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"So where are you taking me tonight?"

Why it works: Sick of an indecisive crrush or wanting to break up a monotonous "Netflix and chill" cycle? Send this to someone you've seen a few times to mix things up and get a sense of what they do to have fun. Let them know you're not taking "I don't know, what do you want to do?" as an answer.14 of 32

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"I mean, how can you resist this face?"

Why it works: It might go without saying, but be sure to send this one along with a perfectly curated selfie. For those of you trying to steer a platonic friendship in a more flirtatious direction, this works best dropped into the middle of a regular conversation. What was once a casual chat about making plans to go thrifting, for example, becomes a cutesy request for your crush's time, and a face they can't refuse. Giving them something nice to look at certainly won't hurt your chances of landing a date.15 of 32

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"Some friends and I are grabbing drinks later! You should stop by (so I can show you off)."

Why it works: On the surface, you've got a low-pressure invitation to a group hang out. But you're also slyly suggesting that you're proud to be involved with  or almost involved with  the cutie in question. This text works for already established flirtations, but just as well if your situation isn't quite fully fledged yet. It's vague enough to keep you both safely in your comfort zones, but it's also relatively platonic (though that's open to interpretation).16 of 32

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"Wanna skip class/work and hang out with me instead? ;)"

Why it works: No, your crush might not actually leave their responsibilities behind, but your spontaneity will get them to at least consider it. The fact that you'd brazenly ask them to blow off their day paired with a tongue-in-cheek winking emoji lets them know you'd push boundaries to see them.17 of 32

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"Tell me a secret."

Why it works: Save this for a late-night exchange when you both have each other's full attention. We all know texting into the wee hours of the morning can get pretty open  take a chance and ask your crush to spill. It gives them a way to play the shy card and give in to telling you how badly they want you without feeling too forward (hey, you asked). Besides, if they opt for a secret that doesn't lean sexually, that still breeds intimacy.ADVERTISEMENT18 of 32

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"You know you miss me."

Why it works: If you're feeling pretty solid about where you stand with your cutie in question, this message has just the right amount of bordering-on-arrogant spunk to make them blush. Confidence is attractive  if you're sure of yourself, they will be, too. How can they say no?19 of 32

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"My friends won't stop talking about how cute you are."

Why it works: There's a bit of subtle flattery in dropping that your friends know about them, that they've seen photos, and that they might just approve. Feel like pushing it a little further? Don't underestimate the power of injecting some sarcasm into your flirting. Adding an eye roll emoji to this text playfully serves as a "don't get a big head" reminder to balance out your compliment so it doesn't read as empty sweet talk.20 of 32

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"You've kept me smiling all day."

Why it works: With just the right amount of sweet, you're telling your love-to-be that the thought of them makes you a little giddy. Think of this as a slightly subtler version of, "I can't stop thinking about you." But just what about them makes you smile? They'll be dying to find out.21 of 32

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"When do I get to see you again?"

Why it works: Not only does this let your crush know that you're thinking about them and enjoy spending time with them, but it also gives them an exciting jolt at the anticipation of meeting up again in person (preferably sometime soon). Plus, if you and your crush are in the friend zone, or you aren't going on dates just yet, this hints that you could be looking for more. It also opens the door for them to suggest that you come over, um, maybe later tonight?22 of 32

a woman lays in bed with her eyes open, not sleeping

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"I can't sleep."

Why it works: When you draw your crush's attention to the fact that you're in bed, their mind is bound to wander to not-so-PG thoughts about you in that particular spot. Plus, you're subtly stroking their ego, since they'll likely ask themselves if you can't sleep because you're thinking of them.ADVERTISEMENT23 of 32

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"Let's cut the crap and go out already."

Why it works: As Dr. Greenberg said, if your crush has been responding to your texts, they're likely interested in you. Cute and original messages are a very fun way to prolong conversation and build up hot sexual tension. But do you know what's also hot? Cutting the crap and simply asking your crush out. Confidence is sexy. If you're feeling bold, there's often benefit in getting straight to the point.24 of 32

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"This song reminds me of you."

Why it works: If you send your crush a song that makes you think of them, they'll listen to the track and analyze the lyrics for days. Not only is sending someone a song you enjoy a thoughtful act of flirtation, but music opens the conversation floodgates  it's fun to talk about what you like and don't like. And who knows? Maybe your crush will send you a song back.25 of 32

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"Guess what I'm imagining..."

Why it works: The key to a successful flirty text is constructing one that creates a conversation. While a cute and simple "picturing you naked ;)" isn't always in poor taste, it may leave your crush a little confused about how to reply. Even if they're not responding because they're nervous, it doesn't feel good to have a message go unanswered. By sending this text, you're hinting that you're indeed imagining them in a racy way  but you're keeping things mysterious and opening up a conversation. After some coy back-and-forth messaging, you might just land a date. Oh, and including a cute selfie with this text won't hurt, either.26 of 32

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"I bet you wish I was sharing this pizza with you."

Why it works: As Cher in Clueless once said when talking about getting the attention of a crush, "Anything you can do to draw attention to your mouth is good." While you can certainly attach a simple photo of the delicious thing you're eating, we suggest you send this text along with a silly/sexy photo of you actually eating it. Your crush will either want to come to wherever you are immediately, or they'll want to plan a pizza date ASAP.27 of 32

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"You made an appearance in my dream last night."

Why it works: This suggestive message lets your crush know that you're interested in them while also hinting at sex (hey, you're telling them about what you do in bed). Pro tip: Don't tell them what happened in the dream so you can keep them guessing and intrigued. And of course, feel free to send this one even if your dream wasn't actually about them.ADVERTISEMENT28 of 32

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"How was your day? I just got home and am finally relaxing."

Why it works: This is a great text to send in the early stages of a crush or courtship, as it shows you care and are thinking of them, but isn't directly sexual (though the "relaxing" bit is certainly suggestive in a good way). It's a great one to send during the week after you know your crush has had a long day, since most people love to talk about themselves. Plus, it's an open-ended question that encourages conversation, which is always preferable to a "yes or no" answer. And in this case, that involves talking about how you both like to unwind (which is, again, suggestive).29 of 32

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"Stop distracting me. I'm busy ;)"

Why it works: People want what they can't have. Send this sucker when you and your crush are texting back and forth during the work day or while you're running errands (or, hell, when you're out with friends), and you actually don't have time for them. By stating that they're distracting you (in a sexy way, since you employed the wink emoji), you let them know you're not being mean  and you also remind them that you're indeed a busy person with a full life, so if they want you, they're going to have to work for it.30 of 32

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"I can't stop thinking about you."

Why it works: As the saying goes, flattery will get you everywhere. Send this one after a first date. If you haven't gotten it on yet, the sexual tension will be palpable, since you're letting your future partner know they're on your mind. By the time the second or third date roles around, good luck keeping your clothes on.31 of 32

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"How about we move this conversation to IRL?"

Why it works: If you've just been flirty texting and haven't officially gone out yet (and all is going well), this text is the perfect way to land a date. Sure, you're flirting, but you're also being straightforward and asking for what you want. Have a list of date ideas ready to throw out just in case  that could mean anything from drinks at an intimate bar to a daytime hike to a movie and take out at your place, so no pressure to come up with anything too complicated.32 of 32

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