What does it mean when a girl asks you about her clothes

Sometimes I feel really bad for men. Lets face it we set them up for failure. We ask guys what seem to us to be simple questions, even though we know theyre loaded ones. If they d

What does it mean when a girl asks you about her clothes

Sometimes I feel really bad for men. Lets face it  we set them up for failure. We ask guys what seem to us to be simple questions, even though we know theyre loaded ones. If they dont answer the way we want, we use it as an excuse to get mad. But what did we expect? Guys, if youre struggling to come up with the right answers to these questions, heres some help.

Tips for fostering better communication with women

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Accept that women communicate differently. Guys may not ask tons of questions or want to get into the nitty-gritty of things the way women do, but that doesnt make one communication style better than the others. As dating coach Connell Barrett says: Men want to solve problems, and communication is a means to that end  put out the fire, patch the hole, save the kitten. Women prioritize exploring and sharing emotions. They see the connected conversation as the goal. For women, emotional communication is an end unto itself. Acknowledging that youre probably starting from different places will help you find common ground more easily. Women ask questions because we want assurances from guys in many ways. Throw us a bone sometimes.

Tune into your feelings. While men are often encouraged not to delve too deep into feelings, women are often naturally more emotional. Thats why tapping into this side of yourself will definitely foster better communication  it will allow you to respond with kindness, which is a great baseline. Kindness is a prerequisite of relationships of all kinds, explains author and Whole30 founder Dallas Hartwig. Kindness is not weakness, submission, or giving up. Kindness is just a way of being and relating to people where you can both be strong, present, attentive, and thoughtful. Guys could stand to ask themselves some questions about their feelings so theyre in tune with them before embarking on deep conversations with women.

Learn how to be a good listener. Oftentimes, women just want someone to hear us out, and we get frustrated when guys tune us out or clearly dont bother listening to or absorbing anything we say. Thats why developing great listening skills is so important. Just listen. Hold off on offering solutions until she feels heard. Ask empathetic questions. Let her know you understand, Barrett suggests. Youd be surprised just how much of a difference this can make.

Dont try to fix things. Were begging you here, guys  unless a woman directly asks you a question that needs answering, try and avoid giving advice or offering solutions to problems. Its not that she probably wouldnt be grateful for your help, its just that if she hasnt asked for it, she doesnt want it right now. She likely just wants to vent and get her frustrations out of her system, and you can help by using those listening skills we talked about above.

Tap into the subtext. When women ask guys questions, were usually asking something different than the actual words were saying. Thats why being able to read subtext comes in handy. Relationship therapist Jor-El Caraballo uses does this make me look fat? question as an example. If that happens often, you could respond, Are you really asking me if you look fat or are you looking for a different answer?' he advises. Odds are, she might want to feel seen and attractive to you in that moment, and you wouldnt necessarily know that without asking the more outright question.

With that in mind, here are some other questions guys are often asked and some suggestions when youre struggling to find a response.

How to answer these 10 questions women ask guys

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Does this make me look fat? Guys, this is one of those trick questions we cant help but ask. A guys first thought is probably something along the lines of, Cant she look in the mirror and see for herself? When a woman asks this, she loves the outfit but is paranoid that it might show off the wrong kind of curves. First of all, yes is obviously the wrong answer. No, Absolutely not! or some other variation is good. If the clothes really do look bad on her, tell her she looks great, but you just dont think that style suits her as well as another outfit. This is a good time to point out an outfit you know she likes. Shell love that youve noticed what shes wearing and forget the initial question.

Do you think shes prettier/hotter than me? This is one of the most common questions guys get asked and it never gets any easier to answer. The answer is always an obvious no. If you get caught looking at another woman, dont worry. Fix the situation by telling her you were just thinking about how lucky you were to find such a beautiful woman and were just noticing how no other women can compare. We know its BS, but we appreciate the effort.

Am I like my mother? This one is really tricky. It depends on why shes asking and whether she likes her mother. Basically, if its a bad thing, say no. If she loves her mother and wants to be like her, say yes. Think it through before answering, but think quickly. Of all the questions on this list, this is the one that should be easy enough to navigate if you play your cards right.

What are you thinking? Strangely enough, Ive had guys ask me this more than Ive asked them. Its definitely a deer caught in headlights moment  the moment she asks you, your mind will probably go blank. Unless youre thinking something horrible about her (and why would you be?), just be honest. If she hates the answer, she might just stop asking. On the other hand, it could just help her find out what a fun, goofy guy you really are. Guys arent very forthcoming very often, so we have to ask questions to try and figure you out.

What dont you like about me? This is a trap. It usually comes up before or during a fight. Resist the urge to go down the list of faults, because it doesnt end well. My advice is to either refuse to answer or give a compliment. One of the best responses Ive heard (yes, I was stupid enough to ask this) is this gem: Youre perfect to me and I love everything about you. Its sweet and arguing with it just makes the girl look like an ass.

How do I look? This isnt so bad. Just make sure you actually look at her before answering. A simple Great! tossed over your shoulder while watching Sports Center isnt good enough. Take 10 seconds to give us that up and down look you used to give us and tell us we look hot. Try to use more than one or two words once in a while, though.

Did you notice anything different? Welcome to pure panic mode. Yes, we see the gears starting to grind as your eyes get wide, trying to take in every minute detail at once. And yes, we do like to watch you squirm. We also expect you to notice whats different. Im sorry, but theres only one real right answer. Guys, you should notice the difference and answer these questions correctly.

Are you listening to me? There are only two right answers to this one. A) Say yes and be able to back it up by repeating back her last few sentences. B) Say no, but have a damn good reason why you werent. More often than not, it should be A. If this is one of the questions you get asked the most, guys, you need to make a change.

Do you like my friends/family? We all imagine our significant other will absolutely love our friends and family. Of course, sometimes we cant stand our family and friends either. I highly recommend being as honest as possible without being rude. Hell no is not an appropriate answer. Just say you like them= but you just dont have much in common. We know the code, its okay. When guys get asked questions about the other people were close to in our lives, we expect a bit of support in return.

Where is this going? Of all the questions women ask, this may be the one guys dread most (or look forward to the most, depending on the circumstance). Congratulations, your woman is ready for the next step. The question is, are you? Dont lie on this question. It will come back to bite you in the ass. Be honest. If youre not ready to move in together or get married, say so. Give her valid reasons. Shell either like it or she wont. Either way, dont lead her on.

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