What is wyd in text

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What is wyd in text

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This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Eric McClure. John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.

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It can be hard to respond to a wyd textespecially if you arent up to much of anything right now. If youre looking for a reply a little more interesting than, Not much, hbu, weve got some ideas for you. Keep in mind, the timing of the text is pretty key here. If a guy is shooting you this text after 9-10 pm, he might be making an attempt to hook up with you. Now, that may not necessarily be a bad thing depending on where youre at, but its key info to keep in mind.

Steps

Method 1Method 1 of 3:If You Like Him

1"Something boring. Wanna hang out?" The classic "wyd" text is often a kind of weak way of a guy trying to work his way up to hanging out.[1] X Expert Source

John Keegan
Dating Coach Expert Interview.  28 September 2021. Go to source  If you like this guy and you think he likes you, just go for it and save everyone some time. Just answer his question with a short explanation of what you actually are doing and then casually suggest doing something together.[2] X Research source Go to source

  • This is a good safe way to suggest a low-key date without risking much. If he turns you down or doesnt seem interested, you can always play it off like you were suggesting a casual hangout.
  • If you do just want to hook up with this guy, you can invite him to your house or try inviting yourself over to his. If you dont want to hook up, meet somewhere publicespecially if its late at night.

2"Wrapping up some homework. I cant wait for the weekend!" This is a solid response because it opens the door for him to ask about your weekend plans. If youd say "yes" to an invitation to a date, this is a safe way to go. You could even ask him what hes doing! Even if neither of you end up making a move, at least the two of you can continue to casually chat.[3] X Research source Go to source

  • If you arent in school, just briefly mention whatever youre actually up to.[4] X Expert Source

John Keegan
Dating Coach Expert Interview.  28 September 2021. Go to source  If you wouldnt mind hanging out right now, dont make it seem like youre up to anything particularly interesting.

3"Im just wrapping something up, whats going on?" Keeping it neutral and a little dull is a good way to test where hes going with this one. If you dont want to just make things easy for himand thats totally fair if hes being this lazythen just dont make it obvious where your heads at and let him do the talking. If he earns it, you can always open up and play along later in the convo![5] X Research source Go to source

  • If you prefer to playfully test him a bit, you might try, "Really? Is that all youve got?" or, "Oh, come on, you can do better than that!"

4"Hanging out with my dog. Meet Spike!" Attach a photo of the pup and ship it his way. If you have a cat or hamster, send that instead. Not only will this give you something to talk about, but it will give him a little glimpse of something you care about. This is a great way to get to know one another if this is a new thing.[6] X Research source Go to source  You can do a version of this with just about anything. For example, you could:

  • Tell him youre painting or drawing and send him a photo of something youve been working on.
  • Mention a movie youre watching and send him a link to a good scene to introduce your love of film.
  • Explain that youre playing a video game, send a snapshot, and tell him how youre crushing it.

5"Im hanging out with friends, were just chilling. Whats up?" Mentioning that youre with a friend or two sends the signal that youre a social person with an active life. Not only is that an attractive quality, but it also suggests that he may have to do a bit of work to get your attention. The follow-up question puts the ball in his court too, so this is a great way to push him into a more interesting conversation without prying or coming off rude.[7] X Research source Go to source

6"I was just about to text you and ask the same thing!" This is a bit eager, but if he hasnt gotten the hint that you like him just yet, this is a good way to make it a little clearer without stating it outright. You also arent asking a question, so youll put it on him to reply. From there, just let the conversation develop organically and see how things go.

7"Hey handsome, Im not up to much!" This is direct, playful, and suggests that youre not busy at the current moment. It obviously signals that youre interested and its flirty, so it pushes him to actually make the next move. This is a good way to open the door for him to ask you out if he wants, but it also leaves him the option to keep flirting if hes not ready for that.[8] X Research source Go to source

  • Feel free to add a winky face to make your message extra flirty.[9] X Expert Source

John Keegan
Dating Coach Expert Interview.  28 September 2021. Go to source

8"Unfortunately, not you." If you suspect hes trying to hook up with you and youre interested in that, feel free to get a little naughty with your response. This kind of reply is also a little funny, so if he doesnt push to meet up, the two of you can at least continue with some playful flirting.[10] X Research source Go to source

  • For an even more explicit option, you could say something like, "You if you can get over here fast enough:)."

Method 2Method 2 of 3:If You Dont Like Him

1Just ignore him if you prefer. Nobody said you have to respond if you dont want to. If hes been obnoxiously persistent and rude, or youre simply not interested, leave him on read. Hell get the message that you arent interested in talking to him.[11] X Research source Go to source

2"Nothing super interesting. Whats up?" You can just be friendly and carry a casual conversation without flirting or implying youre interested in him. In fact, he might just be hitting you up because he wants to be friends. Dont assume anything before youve got all of the info and just treat him like you would any other friend.[12] X Research source Go to source

  • If he does try to flirt or hit on you, just explain, "Look, Im down to be friends, but Im not really interested in you like that," or, "Sorry if I put out the wrong vibe, but Im not really looking for anything like that right now."

3"Reading a study about the decline of conversational skills in men." This is pretty passive-aggressive, but heyat least its funny. It also sends the signal that youre not going to putz around and entertain his lazy efforts or late night attempts to score with you.[13] X Research source Go to source

  • This is also slightly playful. He might back off and reply with something like, "Haha youre right. Thats a lazy move" and then come up with something more interesting. Even if you arent interested in dating or hooking up, maybe hell redeem himself as a potential friend.

4"Idk." If hes going to be so lazy that hes just texting you three letters, reply in kind. This is short, forces him to actually say something, and sends the signal that youre not going to entertain these kinds of games. If he does reply with some actual content, at least hell have it in his head that you arent interested in hooking up.[14] X Research source Go to source

  • If he doesnt get the message here and he tries pushing even further to flirt, just keep being short with him. Hell give up soon.
  • Replying with a 3-word acronym is a pointed way to answer a "wyd" message.[15] X Expert Source

John Keegan
Dating Coach Expert Interview.  28 September 2021. Go to source

5"Cut it out. Ive already told you Im not interested." Some guys use "wyd" as a shorthand for "Im bored, lets hook up." If he has tried pulling this before, you dont need to spare his feelings. Explain that you want him to stop and that you arent going to tolerate it. If he cant seem to understand that, block him.[16] X Research source Go to source

  • You dont need to play nice with a guy who wont let up. If you want to be a little more aggressive and say something a little more biting, go for it.
  • You could also try, "Minding my own business. You should try it," or, "Definitely not what youre doing. Stop texting me."

Method 3Method 3 of 3:If You Arent Sure

1"Im in the middle of this really good TV show, you ever see Riverdale?" Remember, "wyd" stands for what are you doing. Tell him what youre doing! Treat it like a normal conversation and open up a bit to see what he says. This is the best way to get to know him a little better and see what kind of a guy he is.[17] X Research source Go to source

  • Be wary about mentioning other guys if youre hanging out with other guys whenever he texts you. Even if theyre just friends, he may take it as a sign that youre taken.

2"Nothing interesting. Are you a Marvel or DC guy?" If you want to get to know him better, redirect the question to focus on him. Throw out something you feel like talking about, or youre passionate about, and see how he answers. People like talking about themselves, so probing him with questions will keep the conversation going.[18] X Research source Go to source

  • You could ask him about his favorite sport, movie, or band. This is a great way to figure out if the two of you have anything in common!
  • You could mention a hobby youre interested in and then see how he feels about it. For example, you might say, "Im drawing right now. Do you like doing art or anything like that?"

3"Not much. Whats going on?" This is a super neutral approach. If you arent sure about what you want or you just dont have enough info about this guy to really make a decision one way or the other, just keep it dull. This should put it on him to actually speak up a bit and start saying something of value.[19] X Research source Go to source

Community Q&A

  • Question How do you respond to WYD in a flirty way?

John Keegan Dating Coach Expert Answer You could respond with another acronym to make him laugh and end the text with a wink face to let him know youre playing and getting in the mood to flirt.

  • Question What does it mean when he says WYD?

John Keegan Dating Coach Expert Answer It all depends on the context, but he's probably just trying to start a conversation or to get flirty with you. Hes also trying to be cool and not act like hes putting too much investment into the moment, even though they are reaching out.

  • Question How do I stop being a dry texter?

John Keegan Dating Coach Expert Answer In the case of a WYD text, if you dont want to be a dry texter, answer with honesty. Just go out and say what youre doing and ask him about his day, trying to keep the conversation going.

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  15. John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 28 September 2021.
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Co-authored by: John Keegan Dating Coach This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Eric McClure. John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.  This article has been viewed 43,702 times.   Co-authors:  5 Updated: December 16, 2021 Views:43,702 Article Rating:70% - 13 votes Categories: Relationships

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