What to do after matching?

When to Message on Tinder after Matching (Dont Scare Her Off)Posted on 13 Jul 2022 by Louis Farfields in Tinder openingMaybe youre not getting many replies and you think its a timi

What to do after matching?

When to Message on Tinder after Matching (Dont Scare Her Off)Posted on 13 Jul 2022 by Louis Farfields in Tinder opening

Maybe youre not getting many replies and you think its a timing issue.

Maybe you have a special new match that you dont want to mess up.

Or perhaps you just want to learn how to get more success on Tinder in general.

Whatever the case, you want to know when to message your Tinder match.

You get:

  • When to send the first text after matching to increase the odds of a reply by 69%
  • An amazingly powerful trick to get her to chase you
  • The best time to text your Tinder match and get quick replies
  • #1 Mistake youre making that destroys your conversations
  • When to text after the first date(+ and avoid any awkwardness)

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The importance of texting on time

A large topic of debate is when to message your Tinder match..

At least, for texting beginners.

The answer is actually ridiculously simple.

Although it does depend on the circumstance.

Were going to discuss every important scenario so that youll never again wonder when to text your Tinder match.

Lets get started.

When to text a new match

Youre chilling on the couch and looking at pretty girls from your Tinder stack.

A special one catches your eye and you swipe right.

Nothing happens. But five minutes later


She swiped you too.

Now youre faced with a problem

When do you text her?

Do you wait a little to play hard to get?

Sounds good in theory. You obviously dont want to seem needy.

But how long do you wait?

An hour? A day? A fortnite?

Solid guesses, but theyre all


You dont wait at all.

You text her as quickly as possible.


Because you want to strike when the iron is hot.

She just swiped you, so shes:

  • On her phone
  • Excited about the match
  • Likely to answer

There is NO better time to send a message to your Tinder match than right after she swipes you right.

But what if

You match at the moment that you swipe her right

We just discussed the scenario where she is the one that likes you back last and starts the match.

But what if youre the one that sets off the match?

Now youre not sure if shes even on her phone, let alone if shes excited about the match. Maybe she swiped you right 3 days ago.

Is this the right time to message your new Tinder match?

Before I spoon-feed you the answer, what do you think?

Im confident you have a good head on your shoulders. So lets work towards the answer together.

Will you ever know if shes on her phone?

Not unless you hired the guy from Taken to follow her.

Do you know if shes still excited about the match?

No. But you do know that she probably was excited about seeing if you were a match when she swiped you.

Do you know if shes likely to reply?

No. But you can make that more likely by having a killer opener. Here are 33 of the best Tinder openers that you can steal right now.

So when is the best time to message her if you triggered the Tinder match?

(so when YOU were the last one to like. She had already liked you earlier.)

As quickly as possible.

The longer you wait, the more likely shes going to forget you. Or date someone else.

Like I said, easy!

So lets sink our teeth into something more difficult

When to text if she replied to a text

Now things get a little dicier.

We reached the point where most guys get themselves into all sorts of trouble.

Her text was a little short, I think its best to make her wait for my answer so that she knows she has to work a little harder.

So he texts back half a day later.

Kind of sensible.


Its not!

Heres something I want you to hammer into your brain:

Hardly any woman will see your 12-hour-late text as a sign to try harder to win you over.

I mean, she might.

But not if you matched yesterday and youve only exchanged a handful of texts.


Because she has little to no reason to feel attracted to you. Only your photos and a couple of texts.

See how being very slow to reply (in the early stages) could actually motivate her to give up on you?

Dont be a purposely slow texter.

Instead, your strategy in the early stages should be to try and text as soon as she sends you something.


Because then shes holding her phone and its much more likely shell reply! (Remember, shes on Tinder to meet people, not to ghost them.)

With some luck, she does text back and you can have a 5+ minute chat over text.

Holy Tip:

Although its often good to text back quickly.

You dont want to be the guy that ALWAYS texts back in the blink of an eye.

Thatll make you seem lonely and/or desperate.

Did she text you between 6 and 8 PM?

Chill out, thats dinner time. Focus on getting your grub on.

Did she text you at 2 PM?

No stress, those are office hours. Take your time and answer later.

Point is, dont be too available at times where culture dictates you shouldnt be.

By occasionally making her wait for an answer, she gets the idea that you have a life and that youre desperate for Tinder dates. (Like most guys.)

By showing youre different from the herd, youll become more attractive to her.

Does that sound daunting because you dont know what to say?

No worries. Heres 103 things to talk about on Tinder or Whatsapp.

Dont have the time to always check your phone and instantly reply to your Tinder match?

Ive got just what youre looking for in the next tip.

The best time to message your Tinder match in general

Look, I get it.

Youre a busy man.

You got bills to pay, laundry to do, groceries to buy, subscribe to my Youtube channel

Texting back feels impossible to you.

Thats okay. While youd do better with your matches if you replied quickly, you dont have to.

You can also carve out a few moments of your day and dedicate them solely to texting back your Tinder matches.

So when is the best (general) time to message your Tinder match?

If youve been paying attention, you probably already know.

The best time to message your Tinder match in general is when shes most likely to be available.

When is that?

After work hours and when shes probably done with her household chores.

So between 8 to 10 PM.

That busy time slot is also confirmed by research from Nielsen. As can be seen in the graph below:

So if you could only use Tinder one time a day, thats the time Id recommend you chat between 8 to 10 PM.

But be careful.

You dont want to text too much. Because if you do, youll scare her off.

Watch my 3-minute video and find out if youre an overtexter:

Onto the next tip.

How quickly should you respond in general?

To guarantee you dont get this wrong and scare off your Tinder match, Im going to answer this question:

How quickly should you respond to a girl from Tinder?

Important: The upcoming advice doesnt just apply to women from Tinder, but EVERY girl that youre interested in dating.

Unlike what we discussed earlier, this is a little more difficult because it depends on a lot of different factors.

  • How long have you been texting?
  • Have you already gone on a date?
  • Do you know her from real life?
  • How quickly and often does she text?

These are just some of the factors you need to constantly juggle inside your head.

Sounds tough, right?

It kinda is.

Thats why I wrote a whole article about it. Read that and youll know all you need to about how quickly you should respond when texting.

  • How Often Should You Text A Girl? Everyday, Yay or Nay?

When do you text after the first date ends?

This little devil of a question is what started many, MANY texting problems.

Because one too many 90s sitcoms (I forget which one started it) joked that you have to wait up to three days after the first date to show that you arent desperate.

Although that was over 30 years ago, many people (including some dating coaches) say that you should wait. Some even say you shouldnt text until she does.

Garbage advice.

And heres the biggest reason why:

Emotions fade quickly.

Even if you made her feel like the most special woman on earth, shell forget all about it 72 hours later.

And her feelings will have already shrunk by 50% the morning after the date.

So send her a text and send it quickly! Even if its a simple one like this:Tonight was fun. Still laughing about your facemask hamster-hammock joke. Anyway, have a great Sunday

When should you send it exactly?

Within 12 hours of the date.

Now for the most important things to remember if you want to see her (again).

Are you worrying about every text you send your Tinder match?

This is one of the things thats keeping you from having amazing relationships with women.


I get it. Youre worried about someone elses opinion and so you want to get your text right.

But that feeling honestly makes no sense.

Right now your Tinder match is just a smile, some eyelashes and a crop top.

Thats it. Nothing more.

You dont know this person.

Why place so much importance on what she thinks of you?

Perhaps shes just so beautiful that you must have her.

Fair enough.

But dont you think thats a bit of a low bar?

What if shes cold, selfish, dull and has a criminal record for setting her ex-boyfriends car on fire?

Good looks should just be one of dozens of qualities youre looking for in a woman.

Now her score is 1 out of 20 and it may end there.

Texting your Tinder match is not about selling yourself to her, but discovering if shes good enough for you to take out on a date.

If this is not already your standard way of thinking, it may take a while to develop.

So heres a quick fix thatll end make you stop worrying about every text you send:

Get more matches.

The more women you have to choose from, the less one woman will matter.

Below are some links to articles that will most likely triple your matches:

  • 7 Tinder Profile Tips
  • 11 Tinder Profile Picture Tips
  • Best 15 Tinder Tricks for more matches

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For more tips, check out these articles:

  • 17 Tinder Texting Tips  The #1 Tinder Conversation Guide
  • 27 Best Tinder Openers That DO Get You Replies
  • Best 15 Tinder Tricks in 2020 (more matches, reactions & dates)
  • How To Text A Girl You Just Met: 15+ Examples
  • What To Say On Tinder: Use These 35+ Example Texts

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17 Tinder Texting Tips  The #1 Tinder Conversation Guide

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Best 15 Tinder Tricks in 2020 (more matches, reactions & dates)

How To Text A Girl You Just Met: 15+ Examples

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