What to say to ask a girl on a date?

I used to be so shy that speaking to girls made me break out in a sweat. It was so bad that if Ias much asopened my mouth to say, Hi, my vocal pitch went up several octaves.As you

What to say to ask a girl on a date?

I used to be so shy that speaking to girls made me break out in a sweat. It was so bad that if Ias much asopened my mouth to say, Hi, my vocal pitch went up several octaves.

As you can imagine, this didnt exactly help me woo the ladies (unless by woo you mean make them want to giggle, run away, and/or hide).

My troubles were a symptom of a common problem shared by many guys like you: I wasnt confident in myself. Know the feeling? Lets give your confidence (and dating life) a helpful shove in the right direction. This is how to ask a girl out and get a yes (almost) every time.

Table of Contents

  1. Ground Rules
  2. Gauging Interest
  3. The Approach
  4. The Big Night
  5. Post-Date

Ground Rules

Your Posture Should Scream Confidence

Most men guarantee a rejection before they even open their mouth because their appearance does not express confidence. Here are some simple cues to help you remember the dos and donts of posture.

Do not:

  • Stare at the ground
  • Cross your legs/arms
  • Slump your shoulders
  • Fidget

Do:
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  • Keep your chin up
  • Gaze forward
  • Shoulders down and back
  • Chest high

When in doubt, think about how much space you are taking up. Is it a lot, or a little? If youre not taking up much space, its possible you are curled up in a sad little ball (which just doesnt make you look confident).

Take up as much space with your body as you can to reflect that you are comfortable in your body(and this hopefully goes without saying, but keep it within reason  dont go lying down on the ground in the middle of the bar or anything crazy!)

The Clothes Make the Man

No, you dont have to be donned in a freshly tailored suit when you ask a girl out. But that doesnt mean you should look like a slob either. Dress in whatever style fits your personality, but keep it classy. No wrinkled tees, dirty shoes, or other fashion disasters allowed. Dont sweat the specifics, but whatever you do, dress like the handsome and polished fella you are.

Gauging Interest

Engage Eye Contact

If a coffeehouse cutie catches your eye, shoot a few harmless glances in her direction. Linger for a brief moment before turning your attention elsewhere, but dont voyage beyond the five second mark unless you want to be labeled a creeper.

If she returns your gaze with a smile, this is a good sign that the feeling might be mutual.

Do Not Confuse Kindness with Attraction

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Not sure if a friend likes you or not? Ask her out and if she says, What, like a date? reply, Yes! without hesitation. Confidence is sexy (and even if she says, No, at least youll know for sure).

The Approach

Keep It Simple

Dont try to be funny and forget about impressing her. Women are attracted to men who are confident in their own skin, so bending over backwards in an attempt to wow a woman will probably just makeher think you are trying too hard.

Take a few deep breaths, think to yourself, No big deal, confidentlywalk up to her, and say, Hi. For bonus points, find something about her to compliment(maybe she has a neat tattoo, an expressive smile, or a witty t-shirt?).

Does Popping the Question Sound Terrifying?

If youre worried about appearing nervous, letsmake your approach as quick-and-painless as possible.

March up to her and say something like, Hello! I know this is a bit random, but I just wanted to say you caught my eye. Im running late for a meeting/work/class/(you get the idea), but Id love to get your phone number if thats okay?

The Big Night

Dont Take a Sporty Woman to the Opera

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Do some homework before the Big Night arrives. Ask her about things like favorite movies, sports, musical genres, and hobbies.

This way, you can disguise your detective work as small-talk and surprise her with a perfect night out that fits her interests.

Are You Listening, Ogling, or Waiting for Your Turn to Speak?

Keep your eyes on her eyes when she speaks. If you show her what a classy, interesting guy you are, youll have more opportunities to check those out later.

And REALLY listen to her!Listen actively, smiling and nodding in the appropriate places, and be ready with follow-up questions that show her how thoughtful you are. First impressions are huge, so dont blow it!

Keep It in Your Pants

If youre both ready to hop in bed together after the first night, Im not gonna stop you. Differentwomen have different comfort zones when it comes to sex, so I cant give you asweepingsuggestion for when sexshould becomea serious consideration.

That said, dont push the issue if she isnt ready. If you really like this girl, dontblow itin a moment of overwhelming libido. I knowits hard tobe patientbut remember:everything is better when you have to wait for it(plus it will bea lot more funwhen she is ready promise!) Scroll down to continue reading article  Scroll down to continue reading article

Post-Date

No Mind Games Allowed

There is no best time to text or call after a date, so stop over-analyzing it.

If she likes you, she will be more than happy to hear from you, no matter when that might be (Note: if the first date was a Grand Slam, youd be wise to say, Hi, the following day and schedule a follow-up date ASAP because momentum is your friend).

The only rule? Dont be clingy. Confidence is hot, so keep calm and cool.

Fellas: I hope you feel more confident in the question, How to ask a girl out?

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