When someone ask What do you want out of a relationship

16 Perfect Responses For the Next Time Someone Asks About Your Love LifeImpactByRachel GrateUpdated:7.24.2021Originally Published:5.26.2015"You riding solo tonight?"That was the be

When someone ask What do you want out of a relationship

16 Perfect Responses For the Next Time Someone Asks About Your Love LifeImpactByRachel GrateUpdated:7.24.2021Originally Published:5.26.2015

"You riding solo tonight?"

That was the bewildering question posed to Jennifer Lopez on the Billboard Music Awards red carpet last weekend byGiuliana Rancic. Lopez said she was indeed "solo," but Rancic kept pressing, asking, "No one hiding back there? No? No one you're meeting inside?"

Even if Lopez had brought a date, aman should have been beside the point.The world seems determined topair off women in relationships, with a relentless focus that ignores their other accomplishments or their own desires. After all, according to a 2019 Pew Research poll, a half of single adults aren't looking for any type of relationship, and another 10% are only interested in casual dates. And yet, so many womenfind themselveson the receiving end of pesky questions and comments from well-meaning friends or relatives: Are youseeing anyone? Tell me about your love life. Why aren't you engaged yet? When's the wedding date?

Just as there's no reason to give into society's pressure to follow that roadmap, there's no reason to answer the questions  at least not seriously. We have better things to talk about and more interesting accomplishments to celebrate. Oh, and it's nobody's damn business.

These 16 women expertly shut down questions prying into their love lives. Take note for the next time a guy asks about your love life, or when you need a funny reply to "Who is your crush?" (Ugh.)

1. Rihanna: "Wow, how disappointing was that question."Getty/Mic

When a reporter asked Rihanna if she would be visited by Ashton Kutcher (her rumored beau at the time) while promoting her movie Battleship in 2012, her response was swift. "Wow, how disappointing was that question," she said. "I'm happy and I'm single, if that's what you're really asking." Unfortunately, she had to deal with similarly invasive questioning two years later at the launch of her men's fragrance, Rogue. In response to a reporter asking what the star was "looking for in a man," Riri said, "I'm not looking for a man. Let's start there."

2. Cameron Diaz: "I'm in love with life."Getty/Mic

After being asked by British Vogue in June 2010 if she was in love (an allusion to her beau at the time, Alex Rodriguez), Diaz refused to let her happiness be defined by her relationship status, according to Us Weekly. "You know what? Yes I am," she said. "I'm in love with life." Her cheeky reply was a much-needed reminder that significant others aren't the only things that earn our love.

3. January Jones: "It's our right to have secrets."Getty/Mic

As the famously tight-lipped actress toldThe New York Timesin 2013, not everyone's personal life details need be subjected to scrutiny by others, much less a voracious public. Asked again about her off-screen romances, Jones merely said, "I'm not trying to sell myself... I wouldn't know how." There's no need for her  or any of us  to.

4. Ariana Grande: "I love... my album that's coming out in seven days."Getty/Mic

Grande responded to Mario Lopez's question, "Are you single or are you in a relationship?" during a 2014 iHeartRadio interview by redirecting it to the important stuff her work, which was the whole point of the appearance. "I love... my album that's coming out in seven days," the singer said. This wasn't the first time Grande deflected relationship question. That same year, she told Matt Lauer on Today, "I'm happy," and turning the tables onRyan Seacrest:"Why are you doing this to me?"In 2020, Grande  who was dating her now-husband Dalton Gomez revealed how painful it can be to talk about and publicize your relationship. "Sharing special, personal life things that make u happy on the internet can be truly traumatic," she wrote in a comment on Florence Pugh's Instagram post about the hateful messages the actress was receiving regarding her own relationship.

5. Queen Latifah: "Assume whatever you want."Getty/Mic

In a 2008 interview with the New York Times, Queen Latifahshut down questions about her sexuality, ones she's had to face again and again despite reiterating that it's her business and no one else's. Who you love and how is the most personal of matters  and not one that needs to be subject to scrutiny just because.

6. Kristen Stewart: "I'm not going to give the fiending an answer."Getty/Mic

Stewart spent seemingly an eternity in the "are they, aren't they" rumor phase with Robert Pattinson. When the two faced a slew of reporters at anEntertainment Weekly roundtable in 2009,she said she had no new responses to the speculation  because no matter what she said, people will assume whatever they wanted.

7. Taylor Swift: "I'm just very protective of my happiness."Getty/Mic

In a 2014 interview with E! News, Swift responded to personal questions about her dating life by saying she had all sorts of love in her life, but that wasn't the point. She was happy with or without a relationship; and, as she told Vanity Fairin 2013, the relentless focus on her love life and her lyrics "is frankly a little sexist."

8. Anna Kendrick: "I like sweatpants and staying home."Getty/Mic

When Kendrick was askedonAnderson Cooper Live!in 2008 why she doesn't make tabloid drama with her relationships, her answer was simple: She's boring. There's nothing wrong with focusing on yourselfinstead of dating  or saving your exciting dating stories for your close friends.

9. Lorde: "Was this supposed to make me feel something?"Getty/Mic

When Odd Future rapper Tyler, the CreatorInstagrammed a picture of Lorde and her boyfriend with the caption "Hhahahahahah," Lorde quickly called him out. It's just one of too manyracist insultsaimed at Lorde and her boyfriend, who happens to be Asian. Lorde's response, mature and direct, called out the notion that anyone has a say in her personal business.

10. Jennifer Aniston: "If you don't like the way [my love life] looks, then stop looking at it!"Getty/Mic

Millions of people get divorced, and yet Aniston's split from Brad Pitt  and her subsequent unmarried status  has prompted years of questioning and judgment over her "sad" life. In the December 2008 issue ofVogue, the actress took issue with the assumption that the lack of "traditional" love life post-divorce means a lack of happiness. (Now that she's engaged, she fends off similarly judgmental questions about childbearing,like a pro.)

11. Keira Knightley: "Are you going to ask all the men that tonight?"Getty/Mic

Knightley's as famously tight-lipped about her personal life as she is outspoken about sexism. When asked at the 2014 Hollywood Film Awards, how she balances personal and work life, Knightleycalled out the double standard inherent in the question. No woman should have to dish about her love life for no good reason.

12. Nina Dobrev: "I'm just choosing to exist."Getty/Mic

When Lopez questioned Dobrev onExtra TVabout if there was "anyone special" in her life, she responded, "Uh ... me!" When he challenged that she couldn't date herself, she simply responded, "At the moment I am." She's not choosing to be single, she's choosing to be happy  and he and everyone else will have to accept that.

13. Mindy Kaling: "I don't need anyone to take care of all my needs and desires."Getty/Mic

Kaling nailed her response to a question from Good Housekeeping about her love life and goals. Wanting to date or be married are both fine and even appealing decisions, she makes clear, but they're not necessary for living a fulfilling, self-sufficient life.

14. Kelly Clarkson: "Oh, no, nope."

In response to a Q100 Radioquestion a few years ago about who she would call on Valentine's Day, Clarkson responded candidly. (She forgot to add that sending yourself flowers is totally acceptable as well.) Answering to society's expectations, especially in the form of Hallmark holidays, is no woman's obligation.

15. Nicki Minaj: "I have never seen anybody's penis in the industry, actually."Getty/Mic

WhenAndy Cohenrudely asked her "Who has the biggest dick in the music industry?" on Bravo'sWatch What Happens Live, Minaj found the perfect and equally vulgar way to shut down his assumptions. Hey, sometimes in response to an inappropriate question, the best way is to shock them right back.

16. Emma Stone: "We don't need the attention... but these wonderful organizations do."Getty/Mic

If all else fails, take a note fromEmma Stone and Andrew Garfield's book and redirect the attention. When they were eating breakfast in a cafe in 2014 and saw paparazzi outside, they harnessed the attention for good, walking out with signs that highlighted their favorite charities.

Take a note from these confident women and screw what other people are asking and expecting of your love life. There are so many better things to be thinking about.Impact5 good news stories about climate changeCultureColin Kaepernick is about to be a doctorStories that Fuel ConversationsId also like to receive:Up NextSubmit

This article was originally published on 5.26.2015

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