why cant i get a girlfriend in high school

Most guys whove never had a girlfriend come extremely close to getting one but always fall down at the last hurdle.You go on a few dates youre texting each other everyday but the

why cant i get a girlfriend in high school
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Most guys whove never had a girlfriend come extremely close to getting one but always fall down at the last hurdle.

You go on a few dates  youre texting each other everyday  but then something you do suddenly turns her from hot to cold and you cant figure out why.

This happens so often to you that you start expecting women to stop texting you back or disappear into oblivion, because no matter what you do differently it always ends the same way.

Thats because the trickiest stage of getting a girlfriend is the transition from when youre sort of dating her to actually in a relationship.

So if youre sick of getting friend-zoned, watching the girls you like end up with jerks and fed up with being the only girlfriend-less guy in your group of friends then keep reading.

Never Had a Girlfriend? Heres Why

Youre about to discover 14 reasons why youve never had a girlfriend and what you need to do differently to get one.

Guilty of pushing girls away at the last hurdle? Click Here to Jump to Reason #9. Youll learn where you went wrong (especially with texting).

Reason #1: You Assume Girls Dont Like You

How many times have you made these excuses not to talk to girls:

Its no use talking to her, she wont be interested in me.
Shes out of my league
She looks like she has a boyfriend.

I used to be guilty of making these excuses ALL the time  but as soon as I stopped  AMAZING things started happening.

Thats because the reality of the situation is often the EXACT opposite of the story in your head.

Girls have told me they had a huge crush on me but they assumed I never made a move because I wasnt interested in them, when actually I was assuming the exact same thing!

You will never know the truth of how a girl feels about you without talking to her. Without communication.

So I urge you to always seek the truth rather than always making assumptions, for example:

When you saw another guy talking to a girl you liked in a bar

You assumed she was into him  that you were too late  and it wasnt worth embarrassing yourself by going over.

But what if that guy was actually her creepy boss? And she was only being polite and secretly hoping youd come over and save her from a painfully awkward situation.

Another example:

When the girl you liked stopped texting you back

You assumed she wasnt interested in you anymore, so you gave up. But actually she just got out of a bad relationship and felt like she was falling for you. She was just being cautious.

So from now on whenever you find yourself assuming youll get rejected flip the switch and assume the EXACT opposite  a scenario where you are a source of happiness for her NOT a source of pain, for example:

The girl in the bar desperately wants you to go and talk to her. Her night would be boring if she didnt meet you and shell be blown away by how awesome you are.

This will help you face these situations with positivity and become an extremely attractive guy to be around.

#2: You Havent Found the Right Girl Yet

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Dont beat yourself up about the fact youve never had a girlfriend. You simply havent met the right girl for you yet.

I didnt meet my first real girlfriend until I was 29 going on 30.

The thing is girlfriends dont miraculously fall from the sky and into your lap.

So ask yourself. What have you actually done to try and meet the girl of your dreams?

  • Have you downloaded Tinder and created a profile?
  • Have you signed up to online dating sites like Match.com, POF (Plenty of Fish) and Badoo?
  • Have you been going out regularly or attended social events where you meet lots of new people?
  • Have you joined a gym, yoga class or sports club?
  • Have you gone to places women flock to like cafes, shopping malls, parks?

These days it doesnt matter if you live in a small town, are too afraid to approach women, hate bars and clubs or are too busy with work to meet women.

Online dating apps like Tinder give you the opportunity to meet new women regardless of where you are, what your situation is, or how uncomfortable you are with talking to women in person.

What being single most of my life taught me is that the more girls you meet, the more you will begin to know what kind of girl you want as your girlfriend. And Tinder allows you to go from fishing in a pond to fishing in the sea!

So get out there and meet as many women as you can, otherwise you will latch on to the first girl that gives you any attention and potentially settle for a mediocre relationship rather than the girl of your dreams.

VIDEO: If you want to get a girlfriend quickly watch this:

(Its the best way to land the girl of your dreams in the shortest space of time)

#3: You Lack Confidence Because of Your Girlfriend-Less Past

Its no secret that women LOVE confident men.

And your girlfriend-less past is probably crushing your confidence around women.

You feel like women can tell youve been single all your life and you dread them finding out and pitying you.

I get it  but seriously man  this is NOT a big deal.

There is NO reason why this should effect your confidence in anyway.

Why?

Because you simply havent met a girl whos good enough for you yet. You have high standards and will not settle for anything less than the girl of your dreams.

Correct?

This is the reality of the situation and the mindset you need to adopt.

Besides, there are plenty of other things to make you feel confident about yourself around women even if you have very limited experience with the opposite sex.

Source your confidence elsewhere.

From your awesome career, your dedication to the gym, your new healthy life style, your new haircut, the size of your package, etc. Whatever makes you feel good about yourself, thrive off that.

Projecting confidence is also about body language and breathing. Put your shoulders back, chest out, raise your jaw, look people dead in the eyes and speak S L O W L Y with conviction.

This will not just make you appear more confident but FEEL more confident.

#4: Your Mates Are Dicks

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Do your mates constantly make fun of the fact youve never had a girlfriend?

Do they pester you with questions like have you met a girl yet bro?, when are you going to get a girlfriend? or when was the last time you got laid?

When youre out with your mates in social situations where there are women around do they put you down in front of the girls you like?

And this is going to sound harsh but I need to ask it:

Think for a second, what is your position in the group of friends you regularly hang out with? Are you the leader of the group or are you the guy who tags along and hangs in the background?

The guy who has to shuffle behind your two mates when youre in a group of three and the sidewalk is too narrow.

Three is a crowd

The reason I ask this is because your position in the group of friends you hang out with when meeting women is crucial.

In high school I was always the tag along guy and because my social status in school was pretty much bottom of the ladder, the girls I liked flat out ignored me.

But in college I was able to reinvent myself and start fresh. Find a new group of friends who had no idea about how lame I was at school  and become one of the key decision makers in the group.

Women naturally lean on leaders, so if you are not one of the leaders in the current group of friends then consider finding some new friends to go out with.

A group in which people look up to you not put you down in front of others.

#5: You Are Mr Agreeable

If you are not a leader in your social group then you probably always agree with the decision makers to avoid confrontation (even when you really really dont want to do something).

This sets womens alarm bells ringing because succumbing to peer pressure and agreeing with people all the time makes it seem like you are trying to please people into liking you.

Women crave dominant men who are willing to risk rejection or confrontation to get what they want and what they think is right.

So next time you find yourself blindly agreeing to someones point of view (especially a womans) or agreeing to do something youd rather not  actively STOP yourself on the spot and say NO.

Never be afraid to tell people when theyve crossed the line.

Although it may piss people off for a short moment it will pay off BIG time in the long run because women will think this guy isnt a pushover. He has high expectations and doesnt let anyone tell him what to do.

Put simply, this is INCREDIBLY attractive.

Heres an example of what this looks like in action. In this texting scenario the girl was late for a date so I called her out in a playful way:

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Other than reminding yourself to say NO more often you can also dramatically improve the way women respond to you with the language you use.

When talking to girls remember that words like maybe instantly tell her youre indecisive and that shes in control.

Indecisiveness shows youre not confident in yourself, youre not a leader of men and perhaps dont even deserve to hang out with the women you desire.

So replace passive words and phrases like maybe, perhaps, possibly, would you like to? etc., with assertive, masculine language that exhibits the leadership qualities women look for in men.

Use words like listen, lets, we should, were going to, youre coming to, etc.

Women are always secretly waiting for someone to tell them what to do. Heres a text that does just that:

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To recap, as a dominant man and leader of your group you:

*Are willing to risk rejection to get what you want and what you think is right
*Have high expectations of what things should be

So from now on stop worrying about what others will think of you and caring about how theyll react to your honest opinion.

Youll be surprised by how much more people will start to listen to you and look to you for decisions.

#6: You Are Too Safe With Women

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Chances are youve been playing it too safe with the girls you like.

Waiting for the perfect moment rather than creating the moment and making it happen.

Next time you want to kiss a girl you can create the moment by doing this:

When youre both laughing out loud, shes looking into your eyes and perhaps even hitting you on the arm  pause whilst holding her gaze  if shes holding a glass take it out of her hand and put it down  trace your eyes from her eyes to her lips then back up to her eyes  push your hand behind her head and under her hair  then kiss her.

Women are insanely attracted to men who are not afraid to take risks. Men who know what they want and go get it.

Even if you get rejected after approaching a girl in a club or go in for a kiss and get denied, women will respect you for having the balls to try.

Persistence is also a very attractive quality. A man who goes after what he wants and doesnt give up is insanely attractive quality as long as you dont become a borderline stalker.

So perhaps its time to start taking a few risks? After all  you have NOTHING to lose  since you have gained nothing from playing it safe all the time.

#7: Women Only See You As A Friend

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I used to get sick of seeing my female friends be treated like garbage by their boyfriends. They would come to me to vent their frustrations and I would always offer a shoulder to cry on

But instead of seeing how much I could offer them they ALWAYS went back to their jerk boyfriends and the cycle continued.

Theyd tell me they wished they could find a nice guy like you, and I was like but I AM me, why cant she just see that Im the one shes looking for?!!!

Later I discovered why I was constantly getting friend-zoned.

It was because I didnt keep my relationships flirty enough from the get-go.

So if youre always finding yourself stuck in friend-zone creek without a paddle you need to work on being more flirty like this:

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Women need to be clear about your intentions and feel that they are overwhelmingly desired, not rationally considered.

So although you may think it risky, you need to have no shame or guilt about your sexual desires and let your natural desire appreciation spill out, for example:

Roleplaying in Action

The thought of getting sexual with women might seem impossible to you at the moment, but although you think getting sexual might ruin your chances forever, youre actually more likely to mess things up for good by NOT putting it out there.

Women youve wanted to be your girlfriend in the past have probably become disinterested in you during the sort of dating phase because you failed to keep the sexual tension going and slipped into friendly conversation that went nowhere.

It is your job to do something. Even if it backfires shell respect you for it and hell, anything is better than getting friend-zoned!

Watch this video to start getting girls to think of you sexually rather than just as a friend:

#8: You Dress Like Youve Never Got Laid

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Sadly for women, millions of men dress like they have no interest in attracting the opposite sex.

You do realise attracting the opposite sex is the whole point of fashion right?

This is why women spend hours on their hair, makeup and $$$ on clothes so they never turn up to a party wearing the same dress twice.

Listen, I myself am insanely guilty of making this mistake of dressing invisible to women in the past.

I used to wear clothes two sizes too big for me and mismatched colours like I was colour blind.

And did you know that one of the first things women look at when theyre checking out a guy is their shoes?

No joke. Next time you walk down the street try to spot how many women you make eye contact with glance immediately down at your feet.

#9: You Push Girls Away At The Last Hurdle

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Do girls seem to like you less and less after every date?

And do you always seem to screw things up at the last hurdle?

Lets talk about when youre sort of dating a girl, but havent quite made it to in a relationship yet.

This is when youve been on a couple of dates, are texting each other everyday, but youre both still getting to know each other and havent quite made it to the holding hands girlfriend / boyfriend point yet.

most guys whove never had a girlfriend usually get to this stage but fall short at the last hurdle.

Why?

Because:

  • You are too available and prioritise women over your life purpose / mission. (e.g. you text back immediately and are always free to meet up)
  • You reveal your emotions too early
  • You are needy (e.g. you text her more than she does and suffocate her by trying to see her everyday)

Lets break each of these points down so you can figure out where youve gone wrong in the past and how to make sure you never fail at the last hurdle again:

#10: You Are Too Available

If you always put women before your life purpose, or mission, then they will get bored of you.

It is hard wired in womens DNA that a real man puts his mission ahead of her. His current life purpose is #1. This is the ultimate challenge she always wants to fight for but never wants to win.

So never make women the centre of your attention. Your mission comes first.

Because if you always keep a little part of yourself for her to try and win over, shell always have something to work for.

Have you been at that stage where youre texting a girl who you want to be your girlfriend and always reply back immediately? Or when she asks to see you, you always stop what youre doing to see her?

If you feel like youve been guilty of that in the past then from now on when you dont have time to talk or even cant be bothered because youre having too much fun with your friends, simply wait until you are freed up.

For example, lets say youre at work and she says Im bored, what are you doing?

Rather than replying immediately and negatively like every other chump does, e.g. working on some boring report for my boss. He wants it before 3pm. Urgh. Hows your day?

Insteadyou wait until 6pm (or whenever you finish work) and say something that shows youre a busy man and a leader of men. She will respect you for this, e.g.

couldnt text back earlier

You dont have to be running your own business to be on a mission. You can be burning the midnight oil at college, hitting the gym hard, learning a new skill, etc. As long as it is a mission with goals then it is a mission.

Stay true to your mission. Never apologise for putting it above everything else  especially her.

#11: You Reveal Your Emotions Too Early

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When you feel like a girl is slipping away you think that putting your heart on the table and telling her how you feel will make everything ok and make her come rushing back.

I used to make this mistake countless times in the past. Id send texts like I really like you, or I miss you, or I cant stop thinking about you, or, I really want to see you again soon.

You usually text these kinds of things after youve been on a few dates and youve already fallen for her. Its when you think the last hurdle is in sight and then all of a sudden she starts to become cold, or doesnt text you back as fast as she used to.

You feel like youve already invested a lot in her and when you feel lonely, and confused after she hasnt replied in ages you seek her validation that she feels the same way and everythings ok so you can put your mind at rest.

I get it. I get the painful heart wrenching feeling you get when all you want her to do is show her how much you like her, but dude, you must never, ever, EVER let your emotions get the better of you  especially in the critical early stages when youre sort of dating her and arent official yet.

Dont get me wrong, Its ok to text her that you miss her when youre finally together, but NEVER in the early stages of dating.

Its all about maintaining the 50/50 balance of invested emotions in each other.

Women will run a mile from you if they sense you are more emotionally attached to them than they are to you.

The key to keeping your cool when you want to show her how much you appreciate her  without revealing your emotions and scaring her away  is to instead show your sexual appreciation for her.

We talked a little about getting sexual in the section about staying out of the friend-zone, so you know how important this is.

Tell her how sexy her neckline looked in that black dress she wore, how amazing her legs looked in those high heels, how that dress made her bum look edible, etc.

Here are some bullet points on what to say when youre feeling emotional:

I miss you = Cant stop thinking about how hot your neckline looked in that black dress. What delightful number do you plan to wear on our next encounter?

I cant stop thinking about you = Is it weird that a the back of a Renault Megan just made me think about how amazing your bum looked last night?

I want to see you soon = So when am I going to reunited with those luscious legs of yours? Friday is looking good

I like you = You impressed me last night  I may even consider taking you to quiz night as long as you promise to be on your best behaviour.

I really like you = You impressed me last night to the point where Id actually consider sharing needles with you in my crack den.

I love you = I think I could have fun in HELL with you

#12: You Are Too Needy

Think about when youve been sort of dating girls in the past.

In the previous section we talked about maintaining that crucial 50/50 balance.

So try to remember if you were the one who appeared more eager, more handsy and always the one to push for seeing her again as soon as possible?

And did you make a lot of these mistakes when texting her:

1. Text her back immediately every single time
2. Send more texts a day than she sends you
3. Flatter her repeatedly (remember, you must tease her instead or get sexual)
4. Send her regular updates on your day
5. Send text monologues (10 line+ rambles)
6. Send her meaningless texts like how are you?, whats up?, Hi
7. Text her when youre drunk
8. Ask her if shes still ok to go on a date with you

If you did any of the above then you made it obvious to her that you were the one more invested in the relationship. You were the one doing all the chasing and she was the one with all the power.

You were 70% invested and she was only 30%.

So lets talk about how to maintain the 50/50 balance.

Never text her for the sole reason of getting a response. Always text her something shell actually WANT to respond to, e.g.

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You see, women will assign a certain status level to you. If you are too needy and eager they will automatically assume you are lower status. That they hold all the cards.

Women want to work for you. They want a challenge.

Thats why you need to work on becoming more indifferent around women. Indifference is essentially an absence of need.

If youre truly non needy and non eager then you will also naturally not be easily impressed. It is more of a challenge for her to get emotion out of you than other guys. You become a challenge to her.

So if she tries to force an emotional reaction you must resist.

Heres an example of a text a girl might send you to test you. Its called a shit test, and girls use these to throw you off guard and see how strong as a man you are:

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Women use shit tests to filter out low value men and get to the quality ones.

The best way to deal with this is to either play along, completely ignore it, or simply say youre cute :).

Women want a rock in a stormy sea. With true indifference, NOTHING can shake you.

Once you master the art of indifference, the next step is to turn the tables and become the prize so she chases you.

Up until now youve always been the one to do all the chasing.

#13: You Do All the Chasing

The final element to keeping a girl hooked is to turn the tables around completely and get her chasing you. Make women come up to your level.

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In the past, girls have lost interest in you because you put them up on a pedestal.

They saw you as lower status and lost interest because you were always the one pursuing them. There was no challenge for them to lock you down. If they wanted you they could have you. They never needed to fight for your acceptance.

You now understand what it takes to keep a girl interested in you by not revealing your emotions too early, being indifferent and putting your mission first.

You have already become much more of a challenge for girls to win over

VIDEO: If you want to learn how to turn any girl into your girlfriend watch this:

But why stop there?

Heres one more secret tip you can use to flip the switch entirely and get girls chasing you.

Its called role reversal because it makes her out to be the sexual aggressor and you the prize she has to work for:

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#14: Failing to Prepare is Preparing to Fail

Do you have one of these things?

do you have a nightstand

Its called a nightstand and NOits main purpose is not for a book, a lamp and a glass of water.

Its for storing condoms, lube and sex toys

If you didnt know that then Im going to take another wild guess that you have no condoms in your house whatsoever and if you do you either dont know where they are or theyre in your medicine cabinet and out of date.

Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.

Your home should always be prepped and ready for entertaining a girl at the flick of a switch.

So clean your place bro. When I say clean I mean SPOTLESS.

Also make sure your place is full of conversation pieces. By that I mean interesting items.

Books, records, things youve picked up on your travels  anything that shows youre cultured.

My FAVOURITE conversation piece that ALWAYS leads to sexual conversation (and amazing sex) is my yoga ball:

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Girls always ask about it AND sit on it when they walk into my apartment.

The third thing you need  and need in ABUNDANCE  are candles.

Make sure they are RED (the colour of passion) and mix up big ones with small ones:

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Be sure to buy a spare tooth brush so she can brush her teeth.

Also get some women friendly body wash (that smells nice), a hairdryer, spare towel, basically anything you need to give a girl the 5-star Ritz Hotel service she deserves.

Keep a nice bottle of white wine in the fridge, a bottle of red in the cupboard and for the love of god get some wine glasses to serve it in (not crappy tumblers!)

Its all about making women feel at home and making yourself feel like youre ready to entertain company.

Tiny details are the key to making a woman feel like you are in control of your life, sophisticated and perfect boyfriend material.

This might all sound over the top to you, but knowing you have the perfect environment to entertain a lady friend at home will give you a huge boost of confidence.

Think about how much better will you feel knowing that your base is ready and waiting for you to take a girl back to?

The Next Step

Now that you understand why youve been single all your life, the next step is to start doing things differently and take action immediately whilst all this is still fresh in your mind.

The best way to start is with women you already know whove given you the cold shoulder in the past.

So if theres a girl in your phonebook who went cold, or theres a girl at work or college you havent pursued yet, on the Next Page youll discover exactly how to transform her into your loving, loyal girlfriend.

All it takes is three simple steps

Click the image below to go to the Next Page  Step Two  The Solution:

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Wrapping It Up

Even if you only improve on one or two of the points mentioned here youll see a dramatic difference in the way both men and women respond to you.

The key takeaways from this should be that you should:

  • Stop making excuses not to talk to girls you like
  • Being single ROCKS. Dont let it shake your confidence
  • Work on your leadership skills by making decisions quickly
  • Say NO more and disagree with people when they are wrong
  • Take a few more risks. Go get that hot girls number you like!
  • Work on being more flirty with the women you interact with
  • Focus on your life goals and dont be available all the time

Which of the 14 reasons spoke to you the most?

If youve worked out why youve never had a girlfriend before and want to share how youre going to use this advice to get one, post your thoughts in the comments below.

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