Why do people say Ill call you back?

10 Things To Do When They Don't Call Back

Why do people say Ill call you back?

10 Things To Do When They Don't Call Back     James Altucher

James Altucher

Founder at "The James Altucher Show" podcast   Published Jun 12, 2014           + Follow

I pitched a TV show and they loved it. I was going to mike up tables in a restaurant and tape record dates. I would know the woman (she was beautiful, funny, etc) and the guy would not know he was being videotaped.

We created a reel (two dates). One guy admitted in the middle of the date he was confused about whether or not he was gay. Another guy got a call from his wife in the middle of the date. Great stuff. Great TV as they say in the Biz.

I pitched it to Dave Bartolis who worked at HBO Independent Productions. They loved it. He was going to call me back the next day. He didnt. Or the day after that. I would call his office. His secretary would say he was on the other line. I can hold. Oh, hell call you right back.

He didnt.

Finally I called his home number. Oh, uh, we LOVE the idea. Ill call you tomorrow.

He didnt. Or the next day Repeat the whole process above.

Another time someone wanted to buy a company I had started. They came around, they LOVED the company. It would fit right in with their company. Their company was named Google. I wont get into it. They didnt call back. Same as above. I didnt call anyone at home this time. I had gotten better. But I had wet dreams at night. And then I would cry as the sun rose.

Why wouldnt they call me back?

And then a girl. We were apart for a vacation. She was going out to dinner with her ex. Shell call me AS SOON AS she gets back. I fall asleep. At 3am I wake up and realized I never got a call. So I call. No answer. Why didnt she call me back? Where is she? Two months later she was pregnant. Who was the father?

Sometimes I hate the phone, emails, Facebook, Twitter, the call back. Why am I sitting here. Waiting. Dont they realize Im waiting? Dont they want to talk to me: give me money, love, sex, fortune, fame, even just a little respect or generosity? You would give me those things. Wont you?

A) Expand your alternative ideas. When you are waiting for ONE person on ONE idea, youre screwed. You are in a perpetual state of I need this or I die. So we need to prevent you from dying. Heres the surgery you must perform. Find at least one more idea you are excited about. There was one time I was raising a fund. People werent calling back. I decided, ok, time to focus on creating a business of skin care products. Eventually, I raised the fund.

B) Expand your list of people to call. Why did I just call HBO Independent Productions? Why didnt I call Showtime? Or Comedy Central. I knew all the people. EVERYONE wouldve said. I LOVE THIS at the same time. This is the key to getting people to call you back. Even if nobody individually plans on calling you back, if everyone is saying, I LOVE THIS, someone will call you back.

C) Just DO it. I had two dates in the can. They were perfect. We did a third date. The guy wouldnt sign the release form unless the girl, my friend, would have sex with him. Another perfect date in the can. Why did I need HBO to pick me? PICK YOURSELF! I couldve just done fifteen of those dates and I wouldve had a perfect documentary. Or a complete pilot that I did myself without the help of any studio. I no longer pitch books to publishers who might sit on them for months. I PICK MYSELF. I no longer wait for buyers to come knocking on my doors for companies. I make the calls and SELL my company. And I DUMPED any girl who I was suspicious of.

D) Repeat: infinite patience brings immediate results." This is a saying from something. Claudia told me. So I dont want to plagiarize. Even though I am right now. But, truly, deep inside, I dont, because I wish it were my original quote.

I cannot even begin to tell you how amazing this quote is. Every time I think I need ONE thing to happen to make me happy, I repeat the above quote and follow some of the ideas below to take my mind off of the ONE thing and its amazing the result. Something else happens and its usually better.

Einstein discovered that time is relative. My guess is, he was waiting for a girl to call him back when he made this discovery. Because everyone does run on a different schedule. One guy might say, Ill call you back tomorrow or so and that might mean two weeks for him and it might mean fifteen minutes for you. And time expands exponentially the more ideas, the more choices, and the more you are capable of PICKING YOURSELF and doing also the below items. Infinite patience then does, surprisingly, produces IMMEDIATE results. I cant describe further. You have to try it. Its magic.

E) Work out or have sex. When you have a great meeting or phone call or date and you are now waiting for a follow up, its really similar to your body being mugged. When you are mugged the adrenalin inside of you spikes up to unheard of levels. Its the Fight or Flight syndrome. You MUST fight or your MUST flee.

Instead... you are sitting, immobile, by the phone. But the adrenalin is still there, building up, unsure why you are not fighting or fleeing. Then you die. That would suck pretty bad just because somebody didnt call you back.

So you have to get your body moving. Working out, sweating, sex  release all the adrenalin, get the endorphins or domamine or whatever the latest hormone they are calling it, running through your body to fight the adrenalin.

F) Clean. Yeah, take a shower. You stink. Youve been sitting by that phone for days. Scrub with one of those hard brushes that take the dead cells off your skin and really open up your pores. Then turn the shower on super hot so you start to sweat it all out. All the pain, all of the Why didnt she call back that has buried itself into the molecules in your arms, legs, face, head.

And then clean your house. It looks like shit in here. This is a reflection of what your brain looks like. Clean it all up.

Then throw stuff out. Why are you even keeping all these extra books around that you read ten years ago. Are you ever going to read The Hobbit ever again for the rest of your life? And yet, every time youve moved since high school, youve carried that book with you. But its a special edition with drawings! Throw it out!

Then clean your expenses. Do you really need to buy that extra book, t-shirt, movie, taxicab, hot dog, glass of wine? Clean everything. Theres a saying that all the cells in your body change every seven years. This may or may not be true. I have no idea. Everyone says it. But its also true about mental cells, emotional cells, spiritual cells. In fact, those might change every few months. Make sure the new cells have a fresh clean home to come to. Youre disgusting, sitting there by the phone.

Clean up.

G) Dont Guess. Well, its the holiday season so they must be busy to call but they will call right afterwards. Or, this is good news. It probably means they are running it up to their board and getting final approvals. Or, she got home early but didnt want to wake me. She knows I like to go to sleep early. Dont try to guess what they are doing or why they are not calling back.

I have this big problem. Im obsessive. Combined with being a chess player. I look down every angle. Over and over. I picture everything ten moves ahead as to why they are not calling back. And I usually find two variations: the one that works best for me and the one that works the worst for me. And I obsess on both.

What a waste of time. Dont guess. 99 times out of 100 you are wrong. And the one time you are right out of the 100 its for the wrong reasons and, by the way, its your worst case scenario. Congrats on being right.

H) Dont Judge. When I was going to start writing for thestreet.com, Jim Cramer was excited about my ideas and introduced me to Dave Morrow (R.I.P.) who was editor in chief. Jim said, use this guy! to Dave about me. I would call Dave and call him and call him and he would never call back or he would say, Ill call back tomorrow. What a godamn drag!

Finally I said to a friend of mine, thats it! I dont even want to write for a company that treats people like this.

And he said, you need to calm the fuck down. Once you start writing for them youll never even deal with this Dave character anymore. And then youll be writing for thestreet.com. It will be great for you.

And eventually Dave did call back, I started writing, I sold Stockpickr to them, and I hardly ever dealt with Dave (R.I.P.) which leads to an important corollary but Ill make it a separate point:

I) Life is Short. They didnt call back. They never will. Youll call them and argue with them and plead with them and beg with them. The baby will be aborted. The company wont get bought or sold. The deal will never be signed. The money wont be raised. The TV show wont get done.

But in 60-80 years well all be dead. Tiny dots. On a tiny planet. Remember back to the days before the Big Bang happened. When we were all just happy being pre-nothing, before information even existed. Well, that will happen again. See you then, buddy.

J) Dont be afraid. Youre sitting by the phone, sweating. Is she having sex with someone else? Are they never going to buy my company? Its Friday afternoon, am I really going to have to wait until Monday when they said they would call back by the end of the week with the decision?

Dont be afraid my poor little child. Youre waiting by the phone because you had the brush with love, the first kiss, the smile, the intent, the ambition, the ideas, the ability to network and connect, the assets to sell, the clients to introduce, the companies to build.

I want to hold you and hug you. You dont need the call back to be happy. You dont need to be scared. Everything that ever will happen to you starts from just a seed. Plant more seeds.

Be fruitful and multiply.

(Photo by David Blaikie)

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